RSVP Reminder Wording

Totally fine! But I would leave out "if you require an extra few days or so after…" it opens it up for tardiness. The due date is a due date for a reason, your sanity.

I'd word it a bit differently.

I'd send out a friendly email and say something more like:

We are so excited for our upcoming wedding on Date! We can't wait to see all our friends and family and share our joy and happiness.

We wanted to remind you that you have the option of RSVPing online, as well as mailing the card to us. For information, or to answer any questions you may have, feel free to call us, or visit our website.

See you in 6 weeks!

FH and Jade

It's not quite as confrontational, but stresses you do expect that RSVP card back.

When they still don't respond and the deadline is here, or a day or two (no more) before- call, and blame it on yourself. Say in the last minute chaos, you lost their card and wanted to verify their meal option/ability to attend/etc.

As usual Meghan has the perfect wording.

Many thanks for your comments all!

Meghan, your wording is perfect! Thanks

DEFINTELY A GOOD IDEA! I did the same thing through Facebook and called those who did have facebook!

I like Meghan's wording also.

So how do you politely remind people to RSVP if doing it online is not an option? We did however provide the postage for the RSVP envelope.

I'd be interested in the response to Kyle's question. I don't want to waste stamps.

Hi everyone! I suggest waiting until after the RSVP by deadline (I gave a few extra days to allow for RSVP stragglers in the mail), and then reaching out to your guests individually. You can call, email, or text - just keep it simple!

"Hi Nicole! Just wanted to see if you and Matt are going to be able to make it to the wedding or not. If so please also let me know you meal choices (steak, fish, chicken, vegetarian). Thanks so much and we hope to see you soon!"

I think it's best to ask them to respond to you directly at that point, instead of asking them to take another action like RSVPing on your website or finally mailing in that little RSVP card

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/etiquette-advice/you-asked-we-answered-guests-who-dont-rsvp

Has anyone sent out an email to those who RSVP' d to verify their attendance? One thing I don't want are empty chairs that I've paid $100 each to attend.

Yvette, while I assume your wedding has come and gone since you asked that question 5 months ago, I figure that I'll answer that question for others who might be wondering how to do the same thing. I'd send out an email reminding people of details for the wedding and expressing how you're looking forward to seeing everyone. This gives people a reminder and an opportunity to let you know if their plans changed. If you really feel like there's a big chance that people are going to bail and won't want to confess without a clear push, you can add, "if your plans have changed and you'll no longer be able to join us, please drop me a note."

I had a similar issue and instead of an email I used fb messanger or texted them (whichever format they use more). I just told them some RSVPs had been lost in the mail and I wanted to follow up with them. I needed to provide a head count to the caterer. They all got back to me almost immediately.

Thanks Lynnie!

This is very helpful as our rsvp date is fast approaching and FH suggested starting to call the day before the date. I think giving that few extra days will also allow for cards that may already be in the mail time to arrive will help. Our due date is on a Tuesday so I would say that I'll at least wait until that Friday before I reach out to anyone that we haven't heard from by then.

Yay!! So glad that was helpful!

How do we remind our guests that our wedding is still on, given our wedding was postponed 3 times due to Covid? We would like to mail our guests a "reminder" and looking for the right wording.