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Christina
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Christina, on November 2, 2019 at 5:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19
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I just ordered our save the dates, and with those I felt as though $70 just for cards that will be thrown away was wasteful. In the end I went with it, we have some family who aren’t on social media so they aren’t in the loop, and it’ll help let friends know to expect an invitation. But RSVP cards seem to cost about that same amount, if not more! I’m thinking we’ll just mail out invitations, with request to RSVP by phone with dinner choice. I think this will also help avoid anyone attempting to add guests as well, and I think some of our friends in the younger crowd will remember to make a call or text better than they will mailing something out. I think this seems OK, but I just wanted to get some opinions on etiquette: tacky or savvy?

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Latest activity by India, on November 3, 2019 at 10:38 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Tacky. If you don't want to pay for RSVP cards, I would do online RSVPs. You're not going to want to deal with however many phone calls at inconvenient times from people trying to RSVP. Not to mention, I would feel super awkward calling one of my friends to tell them I couldn't come to their wedding. I would still order a few RSVP cards and pre-stamp them for older guests or those who you know aren't tech savvy.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I just think this will make your life difficult. What about doing RSVPs thru a wedding website? That’s what we did and it worked out great. It’s really easy to export into a spreadsheet and see who is coming and who selected what meal. With having people call or text you might not answer your phone and someone will forget to try again, or you might forget to write down someone’s response so you have to go scrolling thru a bunch of old text messages.
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  • Leandra
    Dedicated February 2020
    Leandra ·
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    We did online RSVP through our wedding website. Super easy and convenient. We’ve had several RSVP’s already!
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Do your RSVP’s online through your wedding website. That is what we did and it worked out great. Having people call or text to RSVP is a hassle.
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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Telephone replies are fine. They are personal, and easy. As long as you set up a note pad, or a standing spread sheet, so you get meals info accurately. Go for it.
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  • L
    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    Try getting cheaper invites, rsvp on line but you still need to send the rsvp card. Granny might be text savvy but most aren’t.

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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Phone is probably a bad idea. I would just stick with online and for those who don't know how or are unable to RSVP online, they alone can contact you by phone or mail back. Just make sure you already have them stamped. If you want to avoid anyone attempting to add guests, you can also add "We've reserved (enter # here) seats in your honor". That's what we did.

    And then on the envelopes we specified Mr. Jones and Guest or Mr. & Mrs. Jones and if they had kids under 18, we would put their kids names under theirs. You can also put # of # attending (like if you're inviting 3, they would put 1 of 3 or 3 of 3 attending)

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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    Online is easier and free. You’ll probably end up hounding people via phone anyway if they don’t RSVP by the date.
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    People are terrible about rsvping via phone. No one wants to call anymore so you’re going to get a lot of non-responses. If you want to save, I would do an online rsvp. It will be more reliable and people may be more likely to respond. But if rsvp cards are going to break the budget, I would find cheaper invitations.
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  • Christina
    Dedicated October 2021
    Christina ·
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    Thanks everyone! We’ll probably go with online RSVP for the younger crowd and only send paper RSVP cards for the rest. That idea is great, perfect for everyone
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  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    We only sent things to people who weren't on Facebook and to people who specifically asked for the paper invitations
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  • Z
    Devoted November 2019
    Zoe ·
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    Agreeing with everyone else - we did online RSVP on our Zola website and it was SO EASY. it also made it so much easier when we had to get our final dinner selections to the caterer.

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  • Desiree
    Devoted November 2020
    Desiree ·
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    To keep our costs down we are using rsvp postcard templates we found on Etsy and then just printing them at Walgreens
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  • Andrea
    Super May 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Agreed with previous posters. I wouldn’t do phone rsvp’s. You don’t have a secretary to answer calls at all times during the day. If you do that you’ll have to be ready to write down all info immediately, and then it would be rather difficult to make sure all that info gets into a spreadsheet to keep track of everyone and every meal. You’re making your life a lot more difficult. I’ve never ever seen it done that way for a wedding. If you don’t want to pay for rsvp cards (look at Shutterfly their prices are fantastic) then do an online rsvp.
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  • A
    Dedicated October 2022
    Allison ·
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    Look into 'send and seal' type invatations. That's what we're doing. Ann's Bridal Bargins has then for 99 cents each very affordable or Mint has some good ones for about $3 each.
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  • Christina
    Dedicated October 2021
    Christina ·
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    Wow wish I had heart of Ann’s sooner! Could’ve saved a bundle on the save the dates! Definitely love some of the invites, and with RSVP included I’m definitely going for it!
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    Dedicated October 2022
    Allison ·
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    Right?! Found out about it on this site after I had spent $127 on save the dates. It's weird to think that my invites will be a fraction of that price. Glad I could help!
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  • P & J
    Dedicated February 2020
    P & J ·
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    I printed my own RSVP cards on card stock from home. Guests can either mail it back, follow the link to my website that’s printed on there or scan the QR code that I added. I think having people call in their RSVP would be fine, but you should also offer other ways!
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  • India
    Dedicated December 2019
    India ·
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    You could do a wedding website. I made an email just for RSVP and so far it’s working well. Ppl are going to forget to do it either way you go haha. I thought about having ppl call but I thought it would get too complicated. I had ppl do their names, contact number and a song of choice. So wedding website or email!
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