I asked for 45 days before the wedding date to make sure I still had time to call those who forgot to RSVP and get an exact count to my venue on time. Make sure you know when your venue needs an exact count. Id try to make it a couple weeks before that.
As pp said it depends on final count needed and then I would give it extra time for instance if final count is needed by sept 30 then I would do it A week or so before sept 30 because people lag in responding and you just wanna have extra time.
I agree with the previous comments. Check what date your caterer/venue need a final count by, then set the RSVP deadline to at least 2-ish weeks before then. This will give you time to track down anyone who hasn't replied by your deadline, and for you to relay the total count to your caterer. If you're doing RSVP cards that everyone mails back to you, I also recommend numbering the back of them (and recording the invitation number for each person) just in case someone forgets to write their name on it.
If you're making your own invites, print the invited guests' names directly on the reply card so it's also clear to them who is invited and they can't bring randoms, which is known to happen more often than people expect.
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Were good as well this covid has everyone stuck in place..randy's without employment because he's a musician and all his gigs were canceled that really stuck. Im an essential worker so I didn't lose any time.
It would depend on the date that you have to give your venue your final count. Depending on that date and also your catering final count I would give your guest about a month to a month in half in advance before your wedding to give in their final RSVP'S. On that note during this pandemic I would keep an open feed for guest to contact you in case they have emergencies or feel uncomfortable during the pandemic to attend to inform you if they will be attending or not that way you can be prepared to accommodate some guest virtually. Nothing would be worst than if some guest don't show up and depending on your guest count that you give some venues won't even allow you to use the facility unless the minimum of your guest count are there. Then again some venues don't have this rule my venue does and it is also a pandemic right now and we don't know how October will look like and how thinks might change so it is good to have some options during this time.
Our wedding date is October 10, I set my RSVP date for September 10. Our caterer and rentals need to know how many guests will be attending 2 weeks in advance so I set the RSVP a month in advance to allow for some wiggle room if I have to get ahold of people to see if they are or aren’t coming.
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I like this idea!! I hadn't thought of that, I'll have to do this with my next set of invitations (we sent out our previous invites before we had to postpone). Thank you for suggesting this!