Rsvp nightmare! wedding this Saturday!

Hang in there! I would definitely tell the people who are calling you now that are inviting extra guests that you cannot accommodate anyone else. If you already told people it was okay before you can't really change that now, but you can do something about the people who are still calling you with their "extras". I'm sure your wedding will be wonderful, deep breaths!

Thanks Katie! I'm trying to stay calm but the rsvps just keep coming! It's like every time I hear someone else is attending I freak out a little! I just keep picturing all the guests squeezed in like sardines at the venue!

Tell everyone NO sorry the due date has passed. Hire a security guard or 2 ASAP, give them ur official guest list at each door and check everyone on. Not on the list? No entry. You have lost control, take it back. Grow some bridal balls and stick to your guns. Secrurity and the guest list at each door will save this wedding

I would also talk to your FH and let him know that he absolutely can't invite any more people. Explain that you are in danger of not having enough room and food and that he had time to include people on the invite list earlier and it would be embarrassing for him to invite people and then have to turn them away because there isn't enough room or food for them.

OMG...what a nightmare! I agree with AlmostMrsKing...put your foot down...stop the extended invites from your FH, and let people know when they call, that the RSVP cut off was December 20 and at this point, too late to change with the venue and caterer!

This is one reason I am being SPECIFIC on my invites, and included a "we have reserved ___ seats for your party" on the RSVP form. I am also doing traditional RSVP methods...no email, no wedding site, nothing but MAIL. Good old fashioned MAIL, with a stamp already provided. To me, it is worth the extra 28 cents per person, to include this. (or whatever it is now)

Best of luck! Look forward to seeing your photos and hearing all about it!

Why do people think a wedding is a free for all?! Completely rude, and you have every right to let them know your venue only allows so many and you have reached that.

I agree with Kat. We are going to be very specific because we know a lot of our guest who are not getting and & 1 will try to bring one.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this a week before your wedding!

Hi there!!! I am getting married this Saturday as well! JUST BREATHE! Everything will work out. People are calling me saying that they did not get the day off so they won't be able to make it, etc. We did a "double check" with some of our guests and 20 ppl said they couldn't come. A little more work for us but some people are not considerate enough to say that are not coming anymore. Can you imagine us having 20 empty seats?? I would have been PISSED! But if you are sure about the 186, I will tell those people who are just now saying that they are coming, that they missed the RSVP date and the venue cannot accommodate any more people. They really should understand. Or, you can say that you have turned in your final count already!

TO FUTURE BRIDES, ON YOUR RSVP CARDS, PLEASE PUT "WE HAVE RESERVED ____ SEATS IN YOUR HONOR". I did this and people still tried to add, BUT I had more control because they had to ASK if they can bring someone else. No surprises for me!

Mrs. King summed it all up. My grandmother and mother invited people word of mouth. I told them security will now have to be at the door with the official guest list.

I would put my foot down. people can't be inviting other people to your wedding for pete's sake. they should pay for the bill then. I would be mad

Just say No! You had a response date for a reason. Tell them the venue is full and the caterer already has the guest count.

Saturday is going to be a great day.

Good grief this is a wedding, not a frat party! You can't just invite any Mary, Joe or Tom you meet! SMH

You need to start rehearsing this sentence and telling people "I'm sorry but due to space and budget restrictions we can only accommodate those whom we invited, which is.....(fill in the blank)"

You're going to have to get tough and ruffle a few feathers but you can do it!

At some point you have to say no. I'm sorry, but we had to give our caterer a final headcount 3 weeks ago.

Make sure you come back and tell us how this plays out.

That stinks. I'm not sure if this will make you feel any better, but there are always no-shows. It usually ends up cancelling the extras out. There will be some people come late, some will leave early. However, I think it's a little odd that you didn't reach out to those that didn't rsvp in time? It's really not common around here for people, especially in the younger generation, to mail back the rsvp. They just assume that you know they'll be there. I only got about half of mine mailed back, so New Years day I called, texted, fb messaged everyone that was "missing" to get a definite answer.

I'm sorry that your having to deal with this epically so close to your wedding. I think a lot of us have to practice saying NO, myself included. People just think it's a free for all and don't consider that we have to pay for all these people.

Put your foot down! Call up every person who added extra people and tell them flat out there will be no place for the add ons.

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If you canʻt be the bitch, then imagine if all the food gets eaten and thereʻs none left for your grandparents.

That always gets me huffy and puffy over sticking to my guns.

think security and guest list at each door to your venue(s)

Call the 'extras' or those who invited them and say unfortunately you had to give your final numbers to the caterer and they just wouldn't budge so you would still love to have them, but if they could come for the party sometime after 8 (or whatever time dinner is done) then that would be ok.

That way you don't have to be worried about not enough seats.

Hang in there! Sounds like you've got a lot of good advice from the people on here, definitely consider implementing some of it! It's really important to take back control of your wedding!