Just Said Yes November 2019

rsvp drink option wording?

Katie, on July 15, 2019 at 9:21 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 1 17
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We need to send out invitations RSVP's soon but I want to make sure it doesn't sound funny.
For drink options we have red or white wine, hard cider, and/or ...... I have down Non-alcoholic but I don't like how that sounds. What else can I use for that choice? It is a semi formal casual wedding.


  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    Why do your guests need to select their drink options when they RSVP? I don’t know months in advance what I’d like to drink. July is also really early to send out invitations for a November wedding.
  • Megan
    VIP January 2019
    Megan ·
    I’ve never encountered a drink rsvp? This is very odd to me and I wouldn’t necessarily know how to respond
  • Hannah
    VIP July 2019
    Hannah ·
    You usually don't have drink options on RSVPs. The only time you have meal choices is if you require precounts. With drinks, people may switch things up and not drink the same thing all night, so asking for drink choices would probably not be that reliable.
  • Melle
    Master June 2019
    Melle ·
    I've never heard of drink RSVP options before. You can just put non alcoholic though i think it sounds ok. Or just put sparkling cider.
  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
    You don’t need to RSVP for drinks just dinner. The chef needs to know what to prepare ahead of time.
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    Drinks don't typically go on rsvp but non alcoholic sounds fine to me.
  • Katie
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Katie ·
    I wasnt asking wether or not to put on the rsvp or when to send it out. I literally just was hoping for help on phrasing thanks.
  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra Online ·
    Can I ask why its important to have guests choose their drinks?
    And what exactly is a semi formal casual? That seems contradictory to me
  • Keri
    Devoted November 2019
    Keri ·

    I would probably check all of them because I like to switch up my drink! I'm assuming you are doing this because you are purchasing the alcohol ahead of time. What I would do instead is see if you can return unopened liquor. I know some states allow this.

  • Meghan
    Super October 2019
    Meghan ·
    I agree with PP. I would check everything, except cider. Because I would not know this far in advance what I would want to drink. And like everyone else has said, a drink RSVP is odd and very uncommon, or more likely nonexistent.
  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
    I think this will confuse guests more than it will help you. Asking about drinks is quite uncommon. If you did ask “red, white, cider or non-alcoholic” I’d expect people to check non-alcoholic in addition to their alcohol of choice as a way to indicate they might drink a soft drink as well. But I think what you’re looking for is tally of who doesn’t plan on consuming alcohol? Unfortunately I really don’t think there’s a good way to communicate these things on an RSVP card.

    For what it’s worth, we purchased our own alcohol and tried to get a vague idea with going down our guestlist and thinking about what we know each person to drink, and basing numbers off that. We found a local liquor store to buy from that would all for returns of unopened bottles, which was a lifesaver!
  • Chrystan
    Dedicated October 2019
    Chrystan ·
    What non-alcoholics drinks are you having? Could you say sodas or sodas/lemonade? Maybe refreshments?
  • Rockie
    Dedicated June 2019
    Rockie ·
    -Mock tail
    -soft drinks only
    -you could just write Adult Beverage of Choice: only list the options and leave an option for just NONE (this would also avoid people checking both an alcohol and a non alcoholic option thinking they want both out of confusion)

  • FutureMrsD
    Rockstar July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    I've never heard of a drink choice on an RSVP. I think non-alcoholic is the only way to word a drink without alcohol though. I also think semi formal and semi casual are two different types of weddings.

  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
    Formal and casual are opposites so you can’t really have semi formal casual as a wedding description. I honestly think this is going to make it harder for you. I don’t ever know what I’m going to drink until I get to an event. I’d probably either check off everything or check off nothing because I’d be confused as to why I’m being asked my drink preferences beforehand.
  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    I like the 3rd option - I think that would be the less confusing if I saw it. I would also include non alcohol water option.

    If I received the RSVP I would pick white wine/cider & water (I don’t drink soda/ice tea/lemonade). FH would chose white wine & non alcohol.
  • Katelyn
    Dedicated June 2021
    Katelyn ·

    This doesn't belong on your RSVP card. Maybe list it on your website if you have one? Just if you want people to know what to expect.

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