RSVP Disappointment...

I say still invite your newly created B-list. If they ask you why they are just getting the invite, it shouldn't matter. They still have the option to say NO. People need to understand that everyone can't be invited. For us, we had to create a B-list and there are people on there that should be on the A-list, but we can't invite everyone-- we did a month before RSVP deadline, so we will be sending them out as soon as we see if we can invite more. We have a 175 minimum.

Stay positive most important ppl is you, your FH and the officiant!!

It is disappointing to get a no from those you really hoped could make it. If you want value, why not send out a few more invites to more friends to fill up your venue. Just don't over-invite what you can accommodate!

You can have new reply cards printed with an adjusted RSVP date to send to your B List guests. Try not to worry - it's about getting married to your best friend/love of your life. Things will work out.

I have awhile before i send out my invites. but i know that most of mine will be declines. all of my dads family lives out of town. and they are all older and not going to want to travel. then my moms brothers wife is "stuck up" and thinks that i shouldnt have a wedding. i had a wedding when i was 20, i was pregnant & my parents pretty much told us that was our only option. so they will probably not come & their grown adult kids probably wont either. i should mention that i am now 39, been with my fiance for 8 years, we have a house, a baby, and pretty much getting married because we want to. so i am pretty sure ours will be way less than what i am inviting. i am sad but i know that is how my aunt feels. i hope that 1 or 2 of my cousins on my dads side comes, but its another downfall that my wedding is on a friday.

@Kim & Jody, so much easier said that done, lol! You have to be really organized/ready when you start getting declines to switch over to the B list.

Our RSVP deadline is April 26. We invited 145. So far, we have about 80 people coming. I'd give your folks those last few weeks. If you wanted to post a quick reminder through Facebook.. then I think that'd be normal. You may jump start people's memory.

About inviting a B-List, you can order more RSVP cards with a later date and use the same invitations (unless you wrote the RSVP date on the actual invitation).

However, I wouldn't worry yet. A ton of people will wait until the last minute to RSVP, and some will straggle after the date. And from a wedding day perspective, having a smaller group might be nicer. Sure you'll pay for more food, but you'll probably only have the automatic gratuity added to what you actually spend. Alcohol will be cheaper, you'll get to spend more time with the people who are there, and it will feel more intimate.

I initially invited 118 people including a lot of family from out of town. Only 55 of them could come, so I was able to extend invitations to friends, parents of my wedding party, etc. It all works out in the end. And as soon as you walk down the aisle toward your husband, you won't care how many people are sitting in the seats.

I 100% understand this feeling. We planned and counted on 20 people and have had 4 say no, I was super disappointed and like butt hurt over it. I just replaced them with other people though because there was lots of people left off the list that we could add.