RSVP Disappointment...

Yeah we made a "B" list too just in case our main RSVP's didn't come through. Hope it all works out.

This is what I'm afraid of when we send out our invites in a few weeks. I think like 70% of our guest list are OOT. I just don't want to be disappointed with the outcome. Try to stay positive! There's still plenty of time for them to RSVP!

Is it too late to have a B list, and send them out? On the RSVP's it asks for them to be sent back by April 1st.

Also, the people on the B list wouldn't have received a Save the Date... Would that look weird?

It's VERY late to send out B list invitations with an RSVP date of April 1st. It will be obvious to them that they are B-listers. Some people may not care but others may be offended. This is why many people don't recommend doing a B-list.

We went with a venue that allowed outside catering for this reason...I guess I did not realize my FH would be inviting over 125 people compared to my 44...lol

Is April 1 when you need to give a final number to your venue? You could get more RSVP cards with a different RSVP date and send them to your b list.

None of my out of town guests came. I was so upset because they told me weeks before I sent out my invites they were coming and so on. I got so mad at them. We paid for 90 people to get into the bigger ball room and a week before our wedding we had 6 people tell us they wont be coming after guaranteeing they will be there. So my FH asked a crap ton of people last minute if they could come. I felt it was rude to ask someone so late if they wanted to come but they didnt care they all said yes. We ended up with 89 people said yes and of course you have your no shows which on the day of only 79 came

Don't be sad, its your wedding, keep a positive attitude , your real friends and people that matter or the only ones who need to be there....When its time for me to send invites, Im going to have the problem where no one send the rsvp back and just show up...smh

I think that is every bride's fear at least a little bit. Don't get too ahead of yourself. Wait for more RSVPs to come in!

I have put together some more invites for people from my church. They know that wedding's cost a fortune, and that the guest list was limited. So, I think they will be understanding.

We reserved so many spots for relatives that we had to exclude others. I wish our relatives actually cared!

I invited like 137 and so far I have only gotten 32 RSVP back so far. I still have alot of time till my RSVP date of April 10th early I know

I understand I've had a lot of close family members decline. I feel like it's going to be a reunion for FH's family and I'm not going to know anyone there :/

Sigh... it happens though! You can't force people to come to a party.

With or without them you're marrying the man you love and that's all that matters. That's what I have told myself. lol

I know the feeling. I had a 100 person minimum so I invited 145 guests. Only 96 showed up so I paid for 4 extra plates. I guess it could be worse. The people that showed up had a fantastic time and the people who didn't.....well, their loss.

I'm actually hoping that half of my invited guests show up, we went waaaay over our invite list, therefore budget. So far we are half and half on the yes and no... So I am happy!

It'll be ok.!! My wedding is April 19th. We invited 150 and right now our count is at 99. Honestly we hope it stays at 120 or less. But the bottom line is those who matter will be there. I'm in the same boat, none of my out of town family are coming even though they said they would.

Think of it this way. If they didn't want to come and they came anyway, they'd be sulking and just giving off negative vibes. You don't want that! The ones who do want to come - will; and will be happy to share in your joy!

Think of it this way. If they didn't want to come and they came anyway, they'd be sulking and just giving off negative vibes. You don't want that! The ones who do want to come - will; and will be happy to share in your joy!

I am sorry you are upset. I worry about everything and that is a huge concern for me. However, our invitations aren't being mailed until June for our August wedding and we are already getting out of town yes RSVPs. (We sent STD's!)

You may have quite a few people who come and don't RSVP. At my sister's wedding last year we had only about 125ish RSVP and over 200 at the wedding. The younger guests don't RSVP we realized; they don't know it's important.