rsvp deadline

Just to be safe, I would have the RSVP date to be 6 weeks out. I would be kinda worried about paying extra money for too many centerpieces. My vendors are asking for my final count a month out.

And by having your RSVP due date 6 weeks out, you have time to contact the procrastinators before you give the final number to your florist.

I think it’s acceptable to request a particular rsvp date if your vendors have earlier than traditional deadlines

just still mail invites 6-8 weeks before rsvp date

and nake “date” 1/2 weeks before numbers do so you have time to follow up with anyone who didn’t rsvp

So if I make the RSVP date March 30th to give myself a couple days to contact people before the April 3rd deadline, I should def send my invitations out before March 16th right (8 weeks from wedding) ?? Should I send out Feb 16th so that gives them 6 weeks to RSVP?

Date twins!! I put our RSVP Date to be 3/30 because the baker wants a rough headcount a month prior and it gives me some wiggle room to get a hold of and procrastinating guests.i was planning mid to late February to send the invites out.

My RSVP date was 6 weeks out, invites out at 10 weeks. But my wedding is close to Christmas and most guests are out of town. I think it’s fine to do it that early.

View Quoted Comment Don’t give them 6 weeks, the longer they have the more likely they are to procrastinate. I’d send them the second week of March with a 3 week response time.

View Quoted Comment True! That's what I'm planning to do.

I vote it’s mail 6/8 weeks before rsvp date and rsvp should be 5-7 days before final counts due

I would make rsvp March 28-30 and mail sometime after feb 6 but before feb 20

View Quoted Comment Yep

a date twin with like the exact same timeline

i think last week of February would be my “deadline”

My wedding is 3/16. Headcounts are needed by 2/16. Invites are going out this week. And my rsvp date is 2/1. Try to give plenty of time for the invites to actually make it to people and then for them to respond. You’d be surprise how long it takes for something in the mail even in the same area to reach someone smh. So yes I would send out by beginning of Feb if possible honestly, but def by feb 16.

Yes I would just send the invited eight weeks out from the date you need your final nunbers not eight weeks from the wedding so your guests still have time and you have your nunbers for your vendors

Push back on your florist. There is no reason for a 5.5 week lead time. The flowers won't be ordered until a week or two before the event (weather conditions can have a HUGE impact on what is actually available) and they shouldn't be arranging anything until a couple days prior. You could give a soft number at 5 weeks, use the number of yeses plus those you haven't heard from yet. It would be an idea of the most you will need so that enough non-floral materials can be available.

Also, you could order half your expected centerpieces and figure out a generally non floral piece for the other half and add a few blooms to those. The florist will have some leftovers, those could work really well. If you end up with extra floral centerpieces, use them on the guest book table, gift table, bar, cake table, etc.

Just don't force guests to commit early one way or another. Too many people don't know work schedules until a couple weeks prior, or there might be some other tentative commitment they'll need to figure out.

I would make it early! I put my RSVP date out 8 weeks out, mostly due to my kids being off most of the summer and me needing that extra time to arrange last minute things while also wrangling three kids!

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I know I feel like 5 1/2 weeks is a super early for a florist to need a final order!

View Quoted Comment Yes if you make your RSVP date March 30th you definitely need to move up when you send your invites. Also be aware that not everyone will RSVP on time so you might want to give yourself a week to follow up with people before the floral deadline. Which would make your RSVP date March 27th. So I’d aim to have your invites out around Feb 13th. It’s a little earlier than normal for that timeline but I also wouldn’t want to be stuck with to many or to few centerpieces! Hope this helps!! Good luck.

I would just make the RSVP date 6 weeks out Or maybe plan on moving aisle decor to a reception table for an extra centerpiece as back up?

View Quoted Comment I like this thanks!

That is very early to ask for RSVPs back.
Can you add on to your floral order later ?
With my caterers, they needed a number by a certain date. After that point, I couldn’t subtract any guests (well, not without paying their plate at least), but I was able to add last minute guests to the count up until a few days before the event. I’d expect flowers should be able to work similarly— take a guess but don’t round up, and add more if and when you realize you’ll need them . I suspect they’re maybe wanting numbers so early so they can bill you before ordering so it’s your money paying for the order instead of them coming out of pocket before you pay, as long as you’re paying I’d think there should be some flexibility