RSVP date has passed....now what?

You need to start calling NOW.

Call

Ditto with Analy, need to start calling now, and don't take anything less than a yes or a no. No 'maybe' answers.

Call them up and say "Just calling to confirm your RSVP. We haven't recieved it yet and we need to get the final head count for the caterers so they can prepare enough food for those that have RSVP'd"

I would wait a for more days. Some people only mail them on the last day so give them 2-3 more days to arrive before you start calling.

I'm having a similar problem myself except that I have reached out and still haven't gotten confirmation! It's the most frustrating thing! We still have some time but I don't know what to do... do I reach out again or do I just assume they're not coming and RSVP them as no??

I agree. Call now! You don't want to be caught a place setting shy.

Call them. It's rude that they haven't RSVP'd yet. The day after mine were due I was calling and I gave them a must know date which was 3 days away. But I held firm to my date and told them if they didn't RSVP by then I was taking that as a no. People just don't get how important that head count is. Good luck.

Thanks everyone! That's exactly the answer I was expecting but I didn't know if was being too rash and not giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. I'll definitely be making some phone calls tonight!

Thoughts on what to tell Abby & Karla?? I would say call again and much like Brandie T's advice, give them a date that if you don't hear from them by then you will assume that's a no. Anyone agree?

I always think you should blame it on yourself. Say in the chaos of the last few weeks, you misplaced their card before you marked down their attendance. You just wanted to verify that they were going to be able to make it/what their meal choice was/or something non-bitch slapping.

Pick up the phone and let AT&T, Pacific Bell, Bell Atlanta, Sprint, Verizon....whomever you use for services.....start doing the dialing. You have no time to wait an additional week. Its not rude by any means to call and request an answer. Most people understand you have to give your venue a head count. This is the part of my wedding I'm dreading the most.....

I wish you well!!

I wouldn't blame myself. I'd just say we don't have an RSVP here for you (doesn't blame anyway), and I was wondering if you would be joining us.

@Abby I called the day after my RSVP's were do and those I didn't reach got a msg that basically said... Hi I need to get a final head count to my caterers no later than _(date)_____ . We really hope you can make it but completely understand if you have to decline. Because I'm short on time if I don't hear from you by _____ (a day before the date above) I will have to add you to the regrets list, so if you are planning to come please call ASAP. I got all phone calls within 24 hours and only one person who did not respond at all and they were added to the regret list so I followed that up with an email that just said so sorry you won't be able to attend our wedding. Just to confirm that they were no longer able to reply. I know it feels rude but if you don't want to be caught off guard and end up with a huge after bill it really is necessary.

Don't wait! It may take a couple of days to touch base with people.

Maybe I'm just too harsh but the way I look at this is in my case they have had the STD for 8 months, an invite for 1 month and a RSVP card that is totally ready to be dropped in the mail, it just needs a check mark and their name. So when they don't respond on time and I don't even get a phone call as to why they are late, then I'm pissed. It's beyond rude. I realize that everyone has a busy life but it takes 2 seconds to fill that card out. If there is a reason they have to wait then they can call. So I have no mercy on those who are late. None AT ALL. I split my list between my mom and FMIL because it would not have been pretty if I had to call myself. I just have no tolerance for this. With a fast approaching wedding this is the last thing we need to worry about.

Start calling! Our RSVP date was 8/10, and we also had a handful of people who hadn't yet RSVP'd. By contacting people, we found out some people didn't receive their invite and definitely wanted to come! I agree in that this is the last thing you need to worry about. My dad was the one who called all the slackers. We are still waiting on a few, but for the most part we now know who is confirmed. Granted most of them were slackers, but sometimes life gets in the way and *some* people honestly forget.

@ Cindy, it's nice to hear that your dad helped you call. Frustrating thing is that the two groups of people who we have not heard from are my mother's cousins, who she specifically asked us to invite. When I approached her (my mom) with our dilemma she refused to call because she didn't want to sound too "mother of the bride" can I just do it? First, what the heck does that even mean?? And secondly, we invited these people because YOU asked me to. Arg!!!

At this point, it's become a "pick your battles" with my mom. She truly has a good heart and is a wonderful person but has said some really frustrating things throughout this whole planning process. I certainly know this is the case with a lot of brides and mothers but oh my word! Sometimes it's so difficult to just take a deep breath and move on without freaking out.

Anyway, thanks everyone for your help! I'm going to be calling these ladies today at lunch and I expect answers!!!

I'm with you Brandie. I don't think I'm being rude wanting a response from someone and I think it's rude for someone to not RSVP, especially if they're intending on coming. I wonder what they expect when they arrive at the reception? We're having a sit down dinner and there are still a # I haven't heard from and have not been able to get a response from even after reaching out to them. I'll still be continuing to send out emails and reach out to people since we have to have a final head count to the caterer 48 hours before the event. Still, are people going to be upset there isn't a dinner waiting for them when they were the ones that didn't respond or reach out? This is the part that's stressed me out the most about my wedding and gives me fits about the actual day.