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RSVP Craziness- Too late

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Charlie J., on April 28, 2017 at 12:51 AM

I just had a huge argument with family members about my wedding RSVP. My wedding is next weekend. I sent out invitations in plenty of time and asked that everyone rsvp by April 6th. Well, some rsvps came after the due date and I was ok with that. But, I am literally a week out and 6 family members who didn't rsvp even when I followed up decide that they are coming. I told them no. I submitted my final seating chart and ordered food. Yes, I have extra seats but only 4. Everyone else rsvp'd in enough time. Really frusterated because I eventually gave in and then they wanted to demand where they were sitting. We had an argument about that. I refuse to squish them in with other guests making the table tight. FOH! Can I say that? They will sit in the back!!!! Am I over reacting?

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Master March 2016
The Trap Selena · on April 28, 2017 at 9:06 AM
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You're not wrong. They should be happy that you've been flexible when you had no obligation to do so. Hopefully they enjoy their time at the "I didn't RSVP" table.
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Diana · on April 28, 2017 at 9:08 AM
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I am SO sorry you are having to deal with this stress just a week before your big day! You have handled this so much better than most would, so I hope you can brush it off and focus on what an amazing time in your life this is and what a beautiful day your wedding will be!
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Master August 2017
firstoneat56 · on April 28, 2017 at 9:17 AM
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Going against the grain here but I disagree. I would never turn away someone I invited to the wedding.
There are ALWAYS people who don't RSVP. Always. I work in corporate event planning and I have to follow up with executives on their RSVPs all the time.
Even if you are super clear that if you don't hear from them by X date, you'll consider it a no, you can never be sure that they won't RSVP at the last minute or just show up. Not saying it's right or not very rude and inconsiderate, but it happens almost all the time.
If I could tell brides and grooms one thing, it's always plan for no shows and folks who just show up.
It's not worth fighting about and I do agree that they have no right to demand where to sit. You tell them, "I'm glad you can make it but since your RSVP was considerably late, we are making accommodations for you the best we can. If you're unhappy about it, maybe it's best that we see you on some other occasion." This dumps the proverbial ball in their lap. If it comes up, firmly state that the subject is no longer up for discussion. Do not engage them in any more arguing.
Most of all, save your energy for all the happiness you will feel on this special day.
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