RSVP Craziness- Too late

They were wrong for not sending their RSVPs on time. I am confused about you not having enough seats though. Did you send more invitations than the venue could hold?

I had a friend decline (she lives out of state) after I had to follow up with her originally and she wanted more time, which I gave her. She eventually declined and said sorry but she would still try to make it. Wth? It's not a backyard bbq. It's a wedding. Less than 2.5 weeks to go before my wedding, she is excited to tell me she's able to make it, with a plus one (her sister!) So I had to redo my seating in order to accommodate. People are inconsiderate and don't seem to realize that rsvps are REAL and if you say no, stick with that answer. Sorry you're going thru this. I know exactly how you feel unfortunately.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I get your frustration. I personally would seat them where you have space and that's it. TBH if someone contacted me right now saying they can come I would say no and that's it.

That sucks. What happens to the other two that don't have seats?

My parents personally don't believe in RSVP and I honestly don't think family members would even bother sending it back ! Everyone here hears "party" and bring others with them. So idk how this will go !!

No, you're not overreacting. In fact, I think you have been very gracious. You should have never been put in a position to say "no" to an invited guest, and I hate that you were pushed into that corner.

Whomever you accommodated, at this ridiculously late date, should be thrilled that they have a seat anywhere. I've been seated, with those I love, at the 20-something tables, in the back of the room. None of us cared. We were surrounded by those we loved, had the same access to the bar, the food, and the dance floor as the guests at Tables One, Two, and Three, and we had a blast. We were treated with the same professional service as every other person in the room.

Don't feel guilty. They screwed up, and you fixed it for them. You didn't have to do that. Don't argue anymore; it's beneath you and the grace and decorum you've displayed.

Dont feel guilty, its not your fault its theirs. People should respect the RSVP arrangement. Its in place for a reason. Family or not

I would have lost my shit! You handled this much nicer than I would have lol

I have 4 last minute RSVPs. I'm so mad because not only is the food ordered, I had a custom seating chart already ordered. Well... I will accommodate for those extra guests, but they won't be on the seating chart, and they will be sitting together.

You handled it pretty good bc I would have said sorry you had plenty of time. I'm sure I'll encounter the same issue.

Nope, they should know how to RSVP on time. I would have been a bitch and said no to them coming, period.

This rsvp card I saw on Facebook cracked me up. If you don't rsvp on time, bring a chair and a sandwich. I know that doesn't help but it made me chuckle. Sorry you are having to deal with inconsiderate people. They have obviously never planned a wedding before. Good luck.

Leslie, I love that!! My RSVP deadline is tomorrow and my parents have not yet sent their invitations to their friends (SIXTY OF THEM). My dad goes, "You don't really need a count since it's just dessert, it's not a big deal." Chairs and sandwiches for everyone.

It sounds like you were very gracious. You're not overreacting. It's their responsibility to RSVP on time and they didn't do that. They didn't tell you they were coming when you followed up with them, so they're lucky to have a seat at all.

You're a better woman than I. They had plenty of time, you gave them a second chance and they blew it. They have zero right to demand anything, INCLUDING being let in.

Lookup? I'd lose my shit at that one, honestly.

@ PeaceandLove11, no the venue can hold the people. But, when they didn't rsvp or even confirm after I followed up, then I took that as a no. I still have an extra 4 seats in case, but I have already had the seating chart made. So, it is a bit frustrating.

@Madelyn, nothing happens to the other two. As of 7am, two of the six family members will not be attending. We were arguing way too much for my liking and I prefer to have a stress free day if that's at all possible.

@AokiPartyof3, sorry that this has happened to you as well.

@Leslie, I love that!!!

You're being incredibly accommodating to them. If someone did that to me I would just flat out tell them they can't come. They can sit where they fit!!