rsvp cards

Probably not. We have a line that says, "____ of ___ Attending". We wrote into the second line how many seats we are giving them. Most people have left the other line blank, or cross off the number we put to write in the number of people actually coming (so far no one has tried to add anyone, just not bringing the plus one we gave them). We also have people who didn't put their names on it, or indicated if they are actually coming or not. Don't assume every one has the common sense to fill everything out, label everything and you are still going to get people who don't fill them out correctly.

You will know the number of people attending by the meal choices. Some RSVP's ask for initials next to the meal choice so that you'll know who is ordering what. If yours doesn't ask that, then some people might check "yes" and then put a check or "X" next to the meal choices, in which case you might need to call to clarify.

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RSVP card

What should I change?

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I post a picture of the RSVP card. Could you take a look? I definitely don't want people adding plus ones.

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People will probably just check off if they are coming or not, and puts checks or Xs by their meal choices, especially since you are offering a buffet. People will probably assume you don't need an exact number.

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That's what I was afraid of! How/where do I add "number attending" ? Replace "meal choice" ?

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Since you are having a buffet I think that will be a safe option for you. You many also want to add a line, or to an information card informing people of the children's option and to contact you for dietary restrictions.

I actually wrote the number invited to avoid confusion. It also helps to make sure every name of those invited is on the inner envelope instead of writing “the smith family”.

Some will ignore the number so it doesn’t hurt to check in with guests if possible and see what they are thinking. Hope this helps! I’ve had success with it so far.

Ps- definitely write numbers on the back on each RSVP card and assign them to guests on your spreadsheet. I had SO many returned without their names written down and the numbers saved me the headache of tracking it down.

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I like how that looks... And I completely forgot about number the backs!! I remember seeing that on pinterest. I'm still in the process of ordering them. Genius!

View Quoted Comment I replaces "meal choice" with "please include # of meal choice" Safe? I don't want people ordering two meals lol.....

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That will work too.

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Ha-thanks. Hope I didn't bug you too much with replies.

I hate to say that despite our best efforts to be as detailed and specific as possible on these RSVP cards, your guests will probably ignore the "how many" you say and put how many they want to bring! After being on WW for a year now, there is a new RSVP frustration post nearly every week (sometimes every day). There was one post where the bride got an RSVP card back that said "22" guests were attending. Then when it came time for me to get my RSVPs back, I actually had it happen to me. One guest said "3" people were attending instead of "2." They do make for funny stories though!

View Quoted Comment I have a feeling my aunt will allow my cousins boyfriend. We aren't really allowing the young adults bringing a plus one. And this guy is a total creep. I've only met him twice. How do go about bringing it up to people after you see the rsvp? I realize you just need to explain your reasons go front. I guess how to you initiate that call?

View Quoted Comment If you’re having a buffet, why do you need to select a meal type?

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If your cousin is a minor then it is fine to not invite her boyfriend. But if she is 18 or over, she not only needs her own invitation, but I hate to say, her boyfriend must be invited too as he's technically not a "plus one." It is tough to talk to people about the guest list, but you can say something like "Aunt Mary, I'm sorry there must have been a misunderstanding. My invitation was just for you and my cousin. I hope you understand and if you decide you cannot attend after all, we'll miss you!" Don't give them reasons because they like to "solve" the problems you give them - your budget is limited, they will offer to pay; not enough room, they'll share a seat; a plate, etc.

View Quoted Comment On my RSVP cards I took out the meal choice (we are doing a buffet) and put in a line that says _ of _ attending. We are then using a small stamp to put the number of guests we are expecting them to bring.

View Quoted Comment To put out enough seats. And if children are attending I need to supply kid meals.

View Quoted Comment You’ll know how many seats you need by the number of RSVPs you get back. I would take off “buffet” and just put in a line that says # of children’s meals and a line for them to add any special dietary needs. For example : please specify any special dietary needs (vegan, gluten free, etc.).

My mom told me when I ask the same question that she usually put the number of people attending on that line.