RSVP cards - Mom is not a fan of "_seats reserved in your honor"

I was going to order mine with the 2 already printed

Can u have it on the inner envelope if your printing your envelopes yourself you can do it as u go

So your inner envelope will look like this...

Personally, I'm with your mother on that one, but then I may be the same age as your mother, so this was a concern for me as well. Let me put this out there before I provide our solution: we decided on a very strict budget (which included stamps for invitations and RSVPs) and decided to order them through DB since they were within our budget. The invitation was addressed to those invited, but DB allows you to word not only your invitation, but the RSVP card as well. Since I have family and friends you like to invite people to events they're invited to, we made sure to print that directly on the RSVP card. Hope that helps.

At the risk of sounding like the biggest idiot ever: what are we talking about when we say stamps in this thread? Like you're going to send an inkpad and a stamper? Or like sticker-stamps? Are the stamps numbered or are they just random stamps and you stamp for each guest? If numbered and you're sending an invitation to a house of 5 potential guests, are there 5 stamps in there in case only a few can make it?

Here is ours. I love my handwriting on it... I chose a complimentary marker for the stationary.

We didn't include a line like that, and we had (only) 2 guests write in an extra person. One was a friend of mine and I just let it go. The other was my dad's cousin and I let him deal with that. I don't think a sticker would look good. Either write it in or omit that line.

I"m sorry, that is just silly. Hand write the darn number with a calligraphy pen.

That line is popular on WW, but we did not use it and did not have one problem with a guest responding for more people than were invited. I actually can't stand that line and have never seen it on actual RSVP that I've received. I think it presumes that your guests are incapable of properly reading an envelope. It's lame IMO.

Just address the invitations to the people invited and trust your guests not to RSVP for extra people.

I did this, and because I don't care for my handwriting, I had my mother write in the number for me.

I know you know my opinion but I'm gonna tell you the same thing I told her: this is not a hill to die on. The same people who would be presumptuous to write in people not listed on the envelope are gonna be the same presumptuous people who cross out a number to write their own. Def not worth the fight with mom IMO. I think she'll give in but I also think you'd win points by letting it go.

(FML'S sister for those who don't know)

Really the only way to do this to your mom's satisfaction is to print out each reply card for each individual guest (and believe me, as someone who is in the process of printing invitations and each individual envelope for the last week, you don't wanna do it). Because if she's not liking it handwritten, she's not going to like a stamp or sticker. With all do respect to your mom, ignore her and handwrite the number. Even the most elegant reply cards are handwritten, as are addressed envelopes.

We were going to do that then thought for couples where only 1 might attend that could encourage them to bring a friend. No, it's the names listed only. (It happened to my friend. She did the number of seats reserved and about 5 people brought friends, family if their spouse couldn't make it. )

How about stickers

I personally agree with your mom. I didn't want something hand written on the card and I have never seen an RSVP that said the number of seats thing until I came on WW. I am close enough to all the people invited that I don't have a problem calling them if they add someone not invited.

We decide to skip that part. No one has added people to the RSVP that were not listed on the envelope. But it wasn't about handwriting because I wrote with a gel pen on bottom right corner

No, Jacky. The way to do this is to simply omit the "number of seats reserved" line. It's unnecessary and wasn't even a "thing" on RSVP cards until maybe a few years ago. RSVP cards simply just said "accepts / regrets" along with a line for guests to write their names. Pretty simple!

Thanks everyone for your responses! Definitely seems like its split on whether its necessary or not to have that line.

Appreciate all the comments and opinions and ill talk to FH and decide what we want to do.

We left that out and no one tried to bring an extra guest!

That's because a few years ago, no one would dream of writing in extra guests while now, entitlement runs rampant.

STD's weren't a thing either, but everyone seems to send them despite the problems they cause.

We used a stamp. I'm not sure where you're ordering from, but you could always order the cards with the number printed on them. We had mostly 2s so you could at least order most of the card with 2 already printed and hand write or stamp the rest, or place multiple orders for RSVP cards for every number combination. It seems like a lot of work, but it could be an option