RSVP cards - Mom is not a fan of "_seats reserved in your honor"

Tell her it's an rsvp card that people are going to look at for 2 minutes while they fill it out. Then after the wedding they'll get trashed and it's likely that not a single guest will notice and/or even care

You don't have to do it. We decided not to include it.

@Autum Oh believe me i agree with you but she disagrees so i was just trying to see if anyone had any ideas so that i can try to compromise with her if possible.

I just saw one that says "blank of blank seats have been reserved" where you fill out the second blank before sending

@futuremrscomo thats the same thing, still would be writing on the rsvp before sending to guests

Oh I thought this was about them writing in more than the guests you intended to invite

@futuremrsl ha I gotcha! I think this would be a thing that I would personally say 'sorry mom, I'm doing it this way!'

Well it is thats why people write that and why i wanted to do that. My mom doesnt like the fact that we would be writing in on it before sending.

Was trying to see if anyone had a creative way to get around it as its not worth upsetting my mom over something so small!

Lol thanks @Autumn! I think unfortunately that is the case. Just wanted to try and compromise!

Small stickers!!

That's what I was going to say, stickers. That's what I used. Those tiny craft stickers

We just had someone write in an extra guest. I really wish we would have done it. I don't have any advice but getting back a card with an extra person invited is way more annoying than hand writing in a number.

Wow! My parents paid for just about everything and there was no quibbling. My Dad said two things to me: "It's 21 and up" and "No pay, no say!" The "no pay" was for those who didn't offer to pay for a single thing, but had the most opinions and ideas. We divided the guest list into thirds, because my Mom insisted all 3 sections be treated fairly.

We requested online responses, through our wedding website's RSVP function. It wasn't a matter of budget, but all about waste, because a lot of people don't bother to return those cards. I input into the website the names of those invited and guests couldn't add anyone. All but 2 of our invited guests responded 10 days before our requested date.

Stickers .. but really if you put "__ out of 4 guests" I cannot imagine anybody marking out the 4 and putting a 5.. I think the hint would be taken... also this just seems to be a silly request of her, I don't mean that offensively at all. Half your RSVP cards may not make it back to you. If you do stickers, some are going to miss them and probably still write on the cards.

Not everyone RSVPs for more than you invited. We didn't have this problem at all and didn't include this line about how many seats are reserved. I would recommend following your mom's advice and calling people who decide to add to the RSVP.

Would she be willing to pay a calligrapher? A calligrapher would handwrite the numbers by they'll be a lot more elegant.

I put everyone's name on the invitation envelope that was invited. If their kids were invited, their envelope said "...and family" or that particular name.

Thanks everyone for your input!

@Nessa my sister recommended something like that. Honestly i cant imagine spending the money on a calligrapher for one number on a RSVP card.

I think im gonna let her sleep on it and look into the stamps. And go from there. We still have some time before we have to order

It sounds like your RSVP cards are just like others that I have seen that have seats reserved with handwriting. It's ok. Just don't worry about it and go on. If you feel better with gettiby a stamp to number them then fine, but YOU need to make that decision.

Mine are saying x amount of seats and they are printing some that say 1 seat, some that say 2, etc so we wont have to write in the number. then we will just make sure the right number gets put in the right envelope