RSVP Card for Multi-Event Wedding

Whoa... well, first, welcome to WW! What are your events? The # of invitees go up as you move forward -- will all 400 people get an RSVP to all four events? If you give everyone the option to RSVP to all for and more than the 150 or 300 do so, what will you do? You can't really make it a first come, first serve if you gave them the option for all.

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So people will have the option to RSVP for events they are not invited to attend? This sounds like a potential hot mess. This also sounds potentially very rude - people will know there's stuff going on they're not invited to, which is not ideal to say the least.

What are events 1 and 2? I would just make a RSVP card for the actual wedding and reception and create inserts for events 1 and 2 to stick in the invites of people who are actually invited to them.

Agreed with Kris, only put info for events 1&2 in the invites of people who are actually invited to those events.

I'm also curious as to what your other events are?

Wow! Thank you for the quick replies already!

Well, it's an Indian wedding. So Event 1 is a mendhi/henna party on the Thursday before the wedding. Event 2 is a garba, which is like a big dance party on the Friday before the wedding.

I appreciate your questions b/c it clearly shows the confusion in my idea! No, I don't want people RSVP'ing for events they are not invited to. I want them to write in which event they will attend per the inserts they receive. So if Guest A is invited to garba, wedding+ reception, hopefully those are the only 3 events they will write in. (that was my idea...?)

All 400 people will receive one standard RSVP card (that's the one with the 4 blanks, for them to ideally write in which event they will attend based on the invitation insert(s) they received.)

All 400 guests will not be receiving invitations to ALL the events. So Desiree, yeah, I think I'm on the same page as you.

How have your other married friends handled it?

It you allow people to write in which event they will attend, I think it's impossible NOT to turn it into a hot mess.

Oooohhh.... okay, THAT makes more sense.

I'm using your people #s, not your invite numbers (since couples/families wouldn't get individual invites), so you'd have:

150 inserts that say which events: A, B, C, D

300 that say events: B, C, D

400 that say: C, D

Am I understanding that? Then the RSVP would ask them to write in which ones they want, A, B, C, and/or D?

Honestly, I think asking them to write it won't work. People send back RSVPs with no names, much less the events. You're better off making separate RSVPs that list the events they can RSVP to and ABSOLUTELY making sure they go to the right people.

Reenski - thank you for your reply.

We will have one insert per event. So using my numbers (just for simplicity. I agree, couples/families won't be receiving indv'l invitations):

I will be ordering 150 inserts for the mendhi, 300 inserts for the garba and 400 inserts for the wedding + reception. So if Guest A is invited to ALL the events, their complete invitation package will have 3 inserts and 1 RSVP card. If Guest B is invited to just wedding + reception, they'll only receive 1 insert and 1 RSVP card. If Guest C is invited to mendhi, wedding + reception, they will receive 2 inserts and 1 RSVP card.

Based on their inserts, then they could write in which of their selected/invited events they actually want to attend. I know it's asking a lot for people to write, so I definitely agree with your concerns.

I would create 3 TYPES of rsvp cards.

150 A, B, C, D

150 B, C, D

100 C, D

equals 400 guests.

Put the rsvp card that corresponds to the what events they are invited to.

That way there is still only 1 card per envelope.

Hi prizzle ~ welcome to WW ~ congrats

That's a good idea, but here's a question.

Let's say you're sending 1 invite to household A. Household A has 4 members. Are all 4 invited to the same events?

We look forward to celebrating with you

Please rsvp by July 1st

We have reserved ___ seats in your honor.

Name(s) ________________________________

mendhi - garba - ceremony - reception - none

Name(s)_________________________________

mendhi - garba - ceremony - reception - none

Name(s) ________________________________

mendhi - garba - ceremony - reception - none

Please circle the events you are attending

Hayley FTW.

Ooohhh, tricky tricky Mrs. S

is it a cultural thing where the husbands/men know they are not invited to certain things and they won't be confused?

@ Reenski ~ it was all those riddles today, got my brain thinking ya know

Thank you, Hayley! :o)

Mrs. S - there will be a line on the RSVP card noting how many seats are reserved in that person's honor. Or we might even write the number of allowed people on each individual insert that goes into the complete wedding invitation package.

But yes, if we intend on inviting 4 people from Household A, then all 4 people will be invited to their respective events.

Hayley - husbands/men are invited. the invitation insert has a footnote that states as such.

That's what I was wondering. Because otherwise, how do you deal with that on invites?

Mr. & Mrs. Hayely are invited to all 4.

Mrs. Hayley is invited to mendhi.

Mr. & Mrs. Hayley and kidlets to reception...

See what I mean?

Okay that makes way more sense.

I would do Hayley's first suggestion and create 3 types of RSVP cards. Because otherwise, if there's a standard one, even if they don't get the insert for that event they'll know it's happening but that they didn't get invited to it. Or they might get confused and think it's an option for them even though they didn't get the insert, and circle it, and then you'll have to explain they are not actually invited.

Hayley - I'm concerned about listing all 4 events. What if Guest A is not invited to two of the events? Then what if they circle an event they weren't invited to?

I'd do separate cards for each event.

Wait, new question????

Household #1 has 4 guests

Husband, Wife, 2 kids

Are all 4 invited to all 4 events?

If - YES - they get the card I listed above.

We look forward to celebrating with you

Please rsvp by July 1st

We have reserved _4_ seats in your honor.

Name(s) ________________________________

mendhi - garba - ceremony - reception - none

Name(s)_________________________________

mendhi - garba - ceremony - reception - none

Name(s) ________________________________

mendhi - garba - ceremony - reception - none

Please circle the events you are attending

Or even in the household only certain people are invited to certain things????

Perhaps you could find a way to make the insert double as an RSVP card? Like, make it perforated so they can tear off the bottom and add it to their regular RSVP. Or make it a postcard.

Or just have a standard RSVP card for the wedding/reception, and on the insert for the other events, request they RSVP by email or phone for those events, or request they write on the regular RSVP card that they're attending those events? We wrote a little blurb at the bottom of our RSVP card asking people to write in if they had allergies or needed a special meal, and built in some blank lines so they had room.