rsvp __ of __ guests?

We did ___ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor. We filled in the blank. We had several family members and friends with kids and it got the point across for every guest but one. This guest wanted to bring her 10 year old instead of her husband so I did have to send her a text to say we couldn't accommodate kids. They did find a babysitter.

We had another guest that did text to confirm no kids but they handled it well. My aunt on the other hand acted like a a-hole because her GRANDkids were not invited. The parents of said kids didn't even want to bring them. So nothing I wrote was going to stop her whining.

I've seen this a lot and its a pretty common trick. I think it works pretty well but I haven't sent my invites out so I can't speak to it directly.

I had never heard of this before WW, and didn't do anything like this, because I knew there wouldn't be any issues with my guests, which there weren't. That said, based on the lack of guests' etiquette other users have mentioned having to deal with, if you are going to do this, I would definitely make it clear how many seats are being reserved.

We did this on our invites and while some people couldn't figure out that they were just putting the number in the space available, nobody tried to add uninvited guests. We did have some people write 1 over the 2 we had written in for example, but everyone got that they had a certain number of seats designated to them.

This is how we're planning on doing our invites! ___/4 guests will be attending ...or something along those lines. Not only does it ensure (well for those who actually respect invitation guidelines) that there will not be any excess guests, but it explicitly reiterates and clarifies the number of people that are invited.

I’m doing the same thing for the same reason! I’m doing “we have __ seats reserved in your honor”, filling in the blank with the number and then strict addressing.

We literally wrote each guest we invited's name on the RSVP with check boxes by what meal they wanted and one for not coming. It was impossible to mistake who was invited and who wasn't. That worked 100%. Nobody tried to add anyone and didn't even ask us to clarify because we made it painfully obvious.

We did:

M____________________________________

We have reserved _____ seats in your honor

This way, they can write in the names of the people coming and we can write in how many people are actually invited. We also are asking them to initial their entrée choice to make it even clearer.

We used the punchbowl app. They reserve the message in picture 1, then follow link to rsvp. That's the picture of rsvp in photo 2. We also have more information below.
This app has been very efficient. We sent messages to everyone on guest list. If you do not respond by said date you will not be invited. We keep resending invites daily to those who haven't responded.

That’s how I am planning on doing it to avoid extras

Ours had each guests' name typed on the RSVP card. Each invited guest got their own RSVP card. This eliminated so many issues. There was no confusion never who was invited, what meal they wanted and who responded Yes or no.

My cousins put on the bottom of their invitations "an adult affair." I'm probably going to be doing the same, so that way it's clear to not include kids without sounding rude.

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That is rude though. You never put something like that on an invitation.

It works but don’t be surprised if someone completely ignores it. For the most part writing exactly who is invited gets the point across but in other cases it doesn’t and more is better to ensure that you’re clear. I’ve heard of people just crossing out the number and writing their own so I wouldn’t be surprised if a few people still don’t get the message.

Here is our format:

Names ______

__ accepts with pleasure

(tabbed in) __ of __ attending (we filled in the amount for the last number)

__ declines with regret

Just sent ours a few days ago I'll let you know how it goes haha

I would also add that it's surprising how few people read their envelopes, for the shower we didn't invite one ladies daughters because they aren't invited to the wedding and just her name was on the envelope and then she told my mom "me and my daughters will be there" so my mom was like ohhhh okay..the daughters are like 14 and 22 so it's not like she's bringing her little kids.. so later she will find out when she realizes her invite only has 2 people on it..... It definitely helps to do we have reserved ___ seats in your honor, or the __ of __ attending.

People just don't read envelopes!

View Quoted Comment Those are very pretty invitations! Didn’t you say on another thread you were having a black tie wedding? I’m not sure if I would get that vibe from those invitations though

Yes I am having a black tie and that is not the invitation. It's the rsvp. Invitations will only be given to those who rsvp. And those invites will be beautiful.

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What is rude is that people in this day and age feel their children are an auto invite to any event under the sun. Sadly, it does have to be spelled out to persons and this has become common on invitations.

On our invites, underneath where they marked yes they will be attending, we put "___ of ___ guests attending" and we filled in the second blank. We have had more than a few either completely ignore the number we put down and just wrote the number they wanted or even crossed out our number!