RSVP 2 seats reserved 4 coming

Sorry your having that issue hun. But just run it by them that they are only allowed one additional adult guest being though alcohol will be served you don't want too many kids present

I can imagine how frustrating but I think you know the right decision to make here. It's all in how you word it- just be polite and say "I'm sorry but we cannot accommodate more than the 2 people we listed on the invitation- we completely understand if you will be unable to attend... We would love it if you could still come".

Maybe they thought the only reason you invited them was because of their kids? And sometimes people don't account for children in the food category but still invite them so this her way of assuming that her kids are invited and to provide them with a full meal (still very presumptuous but I'm giving her a little benefit of the doubt).

Um wow. That's pretty ballsy and rude. It's like she's challenging you to tell her not to bring the kids. But that is just what you should do.

Sorry you have to deal with this.

I understand this is a tough and awkward situation, but you need to make sure she understands that this is an adults only reception. I think Nicole C. put it perfectly.

This is one of the things we are trying to avoid by doing all of our RSVPs online. We included children when they were invited (family members, kids we are close with and spend time with, and those traveling from far away). This way there is no question of who is and is not invited.

I just think that is do wrong, and whether or not space or budget allows, I would absolutely not let them being the kids. They weren't invited, and as another guest, possibly closer to you, I would notice that you didn't let me bring my kids, but let them being yours (whether or not I wanted to they weren't invited). I like nicoles wording.

You call them and you tell them that this is unaccepetable. YOU"RE not the one who is being rude. She is. They are not invited and they can't come.

Or tell ya what; send me their information, and I"LL tell them ;-) Problem solved.

I cannot, just CANNOT understand when people cross out the allotted number and put a new one. I get it when there's no number and the kids names aren't on the invite. Most people wouldn't know their family wasn't invited (I didn't know until here that everyone's name gets put on the invite, I just always assumed the whole family was included), but when it specifically says "We have TWO seats" it spells it out in more ways than one. Whether you like this person or not, you need to be honest with her, if that means she won't come because she can't find a babysitter for two kids, then that means she can't come.

Taking kids to a wedding is TOUGH work. They may be well behaved but they still get bored, tired, and whiney. If it's not family, I definitely won't be taking FH's kid to a wedding again because it takes all the fun out of it and you're not able to focus on the event at all.

I cannot believe someone would do that when your invite says adult only. That's rude. however, I wouldn't say anything...that's just me. In the end, it's her who will look ridiculous when she shows up with a child and she is the only one.

Agreed 100% with some of the others above. Don't NOT say anything about her rudeness. Not only that, you risk others who can read and left their kids at home asking why these kids were there, etc. Even though the egg is on HER face, you are well within your rights (and she should learn that her kids aren't going to be welcome everywhere) to politely tell her that only 2 people can be accommodated.

"I received your RSVP card and I'm excited that you seem able to attend. However, I saw that you scratched out the number of seats we provided for you. Unfortunately, we can only accommodate 2 guests, not 4. I hope you can understand that we are having an adult wedding and hope that you and your husband will still be in attendance. Please do let me know if there are any changes to your plans to attend."

You are all way too polite, lol....

"What makes you think that you can add your two children to my carefully curated adult reception? No. It's not happening. I recommend a babysitter or duct tape. We hope to see you, but if not? Netflix, bourbon and microwave popcorn. We'll be thinking of you."

Wow! I would call her out! That's just completely unacceptable...she should get a sitter or not come, end of story.

Call them and let them know only the 2 adults are invited. "Oh, I'm so sorry for the misunderstanding. We put adults only on the invitation but maybe we should have make it more conspicuous. Unfortunately we aren't allowing anyone else to bring their children, due to restrictions on the number of guests. I hope you'll still be able to make it!" -- (They don't have to know that it's not an issue of # of guests for you.)

I see this happen time and time again on here. God help anyone who tries this stunt on my RSVP's I swear this bothers me to the core.

i will have THREE kids at my wedding if the parents even want them there but only they are given that choice and I don't give a crap if that hurts anyone's feelings.

So, this is what you do...you get on the phone and you smile the whole time you tell them no way no how. : )

let us know what happens.

Celia,

i have a business proposition for you...you should start an "RSVP" business brides hire you to call their guests and tell them...uh, no you can't bring your kids!!! LOL

Sad to say I won't be your first client because I myself will gladly call them and tell them. But we do have some brides here that are just way to nice.

I agree with Celia. You cannot be polite to people who do this. Contact her and let her know that 2 seats have been reserved for her and 2 guests are the only guests invited. If she balks, let her know you are rescinding her invitation.

For the life of me, I cannot understand why people think this is okay.

I heart Celia...

No, this is not ok. Tell FH you are sticking to your guns and call her (or have Celia do it). You specifically stated adult reception, you specifically gave her an RSVP for 2, and she crossed the line.

And I agree with a previous poster- if I have to go thru the trouble of finding and paying for a babysitter, then show up and see kids running around, I will be pissed at you.

Guess it depends on how valuable your friendship is to you. if you don't go with it, she'll get mad and that will be the end of the friendship. as for everyone else, if they say anything you can just tell them the truth, that the other 2 people weren't invited!

if it was me I'd speak to her about it,she may come from a background where it was acceptable to do that and may not realize it's considered out of line. she may have meant no harm.

if she gets mad, then I guess decide what you want to do.

as for the kid, does your son like him? is he a monster? something to consider!

I do think you are in the right to let her know that you only invited the 2 particular people if you decide to do that .

good luck! either way, just remember that people get emotional and weird about weddings, and most everything blows over later. thats the way of it.

My wedding website only allows invitees to respond with the max number I set for them lol. And it's 2 for everyone! Except FFIL/FMIL as FHs little bro is of course invited and he's 5, so they're the only ones with a 3 person RSVP tab love it lol.

I fear that this is going to be the biggest issue when send out our invites! We are having an Adult only ceremony and reception and I can already tell many family members aren't okay with it! You just have to stand your ground. If you make exceptions for one then it will offend someone else who actually followed your request and you'll have more issues to deal with. Why anyone would even WANT to bring children to a wedding is beyond me. We aren't even having teenage cousins at our wedding. I'm sure they'd prefer to do something else on a Saturday night, anyway!

Soooo rude!!