Rounding up, do I need to?

Is there anyone you really really want there that has not RSVPed? I would add on 2 extras, but definitely not 10.

ETA: For the record, I completely agree with your feelings towards it.

I would absolutely not round up. Get in contact with these people and tell them you need a yes or a no. My per person after fees was $145 - no way I would've paid an extra $1450 for those who couldn't bother to respond.

If I can't get hold of someone, like at all, I might reserve an extra seat just in case. But if they've said no either on the rsvp or to your face (or on the phone), I'm sure you can take it as a no.

Also, if someone tells me yes and then doesn't show up, they better have a damn good reason or I'm sending them a bill for their meal (I'm just kidding).

Maybe round up by 1 or 2 but not ten

Depending on the size of your wedding, odds are you will have some people who RSVP and don't show, along with those who didn't RSVP but do show. Hopefully they just negate each other. Either way, I agree with the above comments, round up by 1 or 2, definitely not 10.

I would NOT stress about this.. Is your ceremony at the same venue as reception?? Mine is- the DOC will do a headcount during the ceremony to make sure the right number of places are set. If theres a big number of extras (which I don't expect at all) she has said she can have an extra table set during the cocktail hour. I also can adjust my final number up between now and the wedding if anyone else RSVP's, which they wont. I have 85 yes RSVPS. I gave her 85 as my final count. I expect that there may be 1-2 no shows because life happens.

I definitely did not round up, but I also knew that if for some reason 1-2 people crashed the wedding and needed a meal that my venue would be able to handle it. I'd tell the venue/caterer your exact number, and ask if you *should* be rounding up 1-2 meals or how they handle that situation. I also feel like it is WAY more likely (but still rare) for guests to no-show or cancel last minute than to show up without RSVPing and ignoring your follow-up!

Why aren't you calling the people who didn't RSVP? Out of spite?

Calling them would be the easiest solution. Not "rounding up". Mail gets lost. People forget. Life happens. Have a little empathy and call the guests.

The contract for my venue automatically guarantees to serve 5% above the head count for over 100 guests. That way even if someone doesn't RSVP or RSVPs no but shows up we will still be able to accommodate them (unless it's over 5% that show up). Check your contract to see if there's a contingency for this but I also agree that I would add just 2 but not more to the count.

I would call the guests next week who have not yet RSVP'ed. Depending on your venue cost whether you round up. Mine is $150 per person so no way am I paying for meals that are not getting eaten, I will also be very annoyed if someone RSVPs yes and doesn't show up. Just remember if your RSVP date is tomorrow, that probably means that people will be putting them in the mailbox through this weekend and then you wont receive them until mid next week.

I rounded up for a few extras, no more than 4 or so.

I would not round up. I'd try to get in touch with anyone who hasn't RSVP'ed.

Unfortunately, most couples get some no-shows, too. I've actually heard of this happening more than people showing up without responding.

Hi date twin! And career twin I wouldn't round any numbers up. I would reach out to those who haven't RSVPed and be done. That's my plan. My RSVP date is Saturday, so tomorrow and Friday I will be reaching out to people who haven't sent in RSVP.

Sorry it took me a while to respond, guys, had a client.

Thank you all very much I was wondering if I was crazy for not wanting to do this. I generally really respect and usually go with my best friends opinion but this time she is not married and does not know the costs of all of this. She also has a very big and very close family and mine is not like that at all.

@LB, I will be calling starting tomorrow. There aren't many stragglers left, but I'm also not going to harass people and stay on them constantly to get an answer out of them. For example I've been asking my aunt about my cousin and she just responds, "I don't know yet. Relax! You have plenty of time."

Um no I don't.

I would ask the caterer or venue what is normal. They should do this all the time and have a better idea

No way, is your friend going to pay for said ten people?

I have been assured by every caterer I have ever used that they automatically cook for 10% over the guaranteed number. So no, I would not add any that have not rsvp'd.

Definitely not. If people RSVP'd no, they don't get a seat. I'm not paying extra for a butt that's not there and potentially end up with more food than people at the reception. That's just a waste of money and food.

I didn't round up. At all. I did however, have several people not show because of life. Babysitters occasionally cancel at the last minute and kids get sick. It happens.