Rogue Bridesmaid!

View Quoted Comment I feel your frustration, she's just being rude at this point. Maybe your other sisters can talk some sense I to her. If not, then you should just not worry about it, she can sit with the guests if she isnt willing to be a team player. You aren't asking anything extraordinary.

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Yes that is crazy she is getting stressed over one dress! She should put herself in your shoes. I can't even imagine your stress! You shouldn't have to pay for her dress since you have to pay for everything else. Good luck with everything.

So I called her because I just had to get everything off of my chest. She apologized and said removing herself from the wedding wasn't meant to upset me. She felt that because she lives out of state and can't be here for the big things (parties, dress fitting etc.) she just thought it'd be easier. She said she was sorry she bought the dress that she did and is taking it back tomorrow to go find one from DB. We got her squared away with hotels (my friend is a GM of one) and flights. Which when she finally let me know she was stressed about money...not even the dress. I have to admit that I am partially to blame for such a big scene because I jumped ahead and didn't fully understand why she was saying the things she said. Thank you all for letting me vent and giving me your two cents! I'm ready for this day to be over now lol

Definitely text her back and tell her that won't work. The fact that you even gave her the option to pick her dress from any 50+ dresses -- usually you get assigned a dress and color as a BM! tell her it's beautiful but you don't think it will match the color or style of the other bridesmaids, so she can keep it or return it, but she needs to go to david's bridal or go online and pick out a dress in the right color or else you can do it for her

I agree with the others, you need to tell her now that it won't work. Just be sweet about it. Tell her that dress was great but you are afraid it won't match since it was not made by the same designer for the dye lot. Maybe even look at the style of the dress she found at Nordstrom and look on David Bridal's website and find a couple that are similar in style. That way you are offering a solution instead of telling her to figure it out.

So glad you were able to get it worked out, because that definitely sounded stressful to me.

It’s your wedding we are in such me first world! She needs yo but the right dress or isn’t in the wedding

Well I'm glad she finally came clean about being upset over the money and not the wedding itself. I hope this let's her be more open and communicative from now on.

Why not put her in the middle of the line up so even if it does match, it's symmetrical. Unless it's a wildly different shade, it probably wont be as noticeable as you think/fear

Glad it’s all worked out.