Ringbearer's Tux...Who pays?

We are paying. I think it is tacky to ask them to pay. sorry

My daughter did not have a ring bearer, so I am just responding off the cuff. I would ask the boys parents if he would like to be ring bearer. Let them know that you would like to have him in a tux and let them know the cost of the tux. Then, mention that you would be happy to split the cost of the tux.

They may very well say, "Oh he'd love to. No worries, we will pay for the tux."

Really? I feel that the parents know he will need a tux when they are asked if he will be in the wedding... I feel this would mean they will pay. the same way bridesmaids pay for their dresses and groomsmen pay for their tux.. maybe I am wrong?

I paid...just because I didn't want my friend to have to spend a ATM and a leg. His mom was n the wedding also and had to buy her bridesmaid dress and shoes

@Virnell - no need to apologize..I welcome your thoughts!

@Kathy R- the ring bearer is my nephew. I asked my brother & SIL several months ago and my nephew is super-excited. The more I mull this over the more I agree with Virnell. I think we should pay.

@Spunky, if it is within your budget, I agree with your feelings. Paying for his tux would be a nice thing to do.

We paid for my nephews tuxedo-but it was a combination of they were cheap (ebay $25 each!) and coordinating them all together since we have 3 boys of our own.

Our tux rental place asked where we got the little boys tuxedos-he wanted to get some!!

I think it just depends on how you think the family would feel.If it fits your budget,I think paying for it is nice.You can always check out ebay

@CKJL5410- I'd agree with you if it were just my nephew involved but my brother is going to be a reader and his 3 other sons are going to be handing out programs, greeting guests,etc. They won't all be getting tuxes but I will be asking them to wear a suit that blends nicely with bridal party. Kinda feel like I should suck it up and pay....plus, my brother has been generous to me over the years. I feel like it's a small token.

We're not having a ring bearer but my little cousins are my flower girls and I'm going to buy their dresses. But there's no rule on it, and I feel like most people just offer to buy it anyways, just see where it goes.

I am not saying they HAVE to pay. If it is in your budget by all means, pay for it. I was just saying I would never expect someone to pay for it if it was my kid in the wedding

I would gladly pay if they couldn't afford to do so, however, if they accept your invitation for their child to be a part of the wedding, generally people already know that it is their responsibility to pay for the tux. unless they mention something specifically that they cannot, it is really your choice. I think it would be a really nice thing to do if you can afford to do so. It seems like you have made up your mind. For anyone else that is unsure, you could always tell them the price of the tux and ask if that is acceptable and offer to pay for half if they seem unsure of it.

CKJL5410 - I know you weren't. I agree and I haven't had the conversation with my brother yet. I know he isn't expecting me to pay but that is sort of where my dilemma began...since it is my brother and he has done so much for me I feel like I should and the budget isn't an issue.

Thanks again ladies for clearing this up for me!

My sisters are paying for their boys (who are my RB's). I also asked my cousins if their daughters would be my FGs and when I asked I politely told them that they would need to purchase dresses. I had told them if they needed help FS and I would be more than happy to help paying for them.

Given our son will be our RB, we will be covering his attire, as we will our identical twin Nephews' attire too (nobody in my bridal party are wearing Tuxedos, since my Hubs feels very uncomfortable in them). We're going with Nice Khaki Pants & Polo Shirts (our's isn't formal at all). We will also cover the cost of our FG (our Niece)'s Dress too, since I don't plan on my Bridal Party's Attire costing that much. I would say though if it is your own child serving ast your FG or RB, you should most certainly cover the cost of their attire.

FH and I are paying for the outfits for the entire wedding party (MOH, BM, 2 Ushers, 2 readers & RB). I don't believe this is customary but as we have the funds and we know they are having a difficult time, it was the least we could do.

We are paying for it. But we are also paying for all bridal party attire so the RB shouldn't be any different. If you are concerned about money, look on ebay. My sister founda great tux for her RB for like $20

I think it's customary for the parents to pay for it, but finding a good deal or splitting the cost is a very gracious offer to make.

I too was going to suggest eBay. I've seen several very cute outfits for under $50.

For my sisters wedding, she paid for the flower girl's dress and the parents paid for the ring bearer's tux. They were siblings so it made it easier for them so they didn't have to buy both

Our RBs tux is a rental that we chose along with the rest of the groomsmen. I agree with @Jessica W.... when you ask someone to be in the wedding and they accept, they know they are signing on to certain costs. That being said I made sure to pick the least expensive tux offered for the RB to make the rental manageable.

Another option if you or they are strapped for money, if you have friends with children the same age and or size as your RB, see if you can brorrow their's if they have one. We almost thought our son was going to have to wear one 2 years ago and a friend offered to send her son's old tux that she had no need for after the wedding he was in. Also you can try Target, Walmart, even Syms, & Children's Sections in Department Stores that may have one cheaper than a rental for nice dress pants, shirt, & tie for less than $20 in your Wedding Colors(we had this for our son for another Wedding, it was way too big for him though).