Ring Shaming because it costs alot? Opposite spectrum

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My coworker has been salty about the size of my ring. She had even asked me how much my fiancé spent on it! She was married very quickly on a small budget, and she picked out her own ring, so I think she's jealous, but I wish she would mind her own business 🙄

I'm personally not a fan of diamonds and generally think that expensive engagement rings are a waste of money and an unnecessary display of consumerism that I am not comfortable with. But, I wouldn't be rude enough to say that to someone when they're showing me their ring (which, frankly, I probably didn't ask to see in the first place). A person shouldn't comment on the price of anything - end of story. I could see a comment about not wanting to or being able to wear something so fancy or something. That's not shaming the ring - people like and want different things. As a side note, we also really should stop dismissing other women as "jealous."

Yep, ignore the person! Wear your ring proudly - it’s beautiful!

Your ring is beautiful. It is what you wanted. It is none of anyones business. If they have a negative opinion, put the metaphorical hater blocker up. People have opinions about everything, especially during weddings. You do you girl.

It's gorgeous!! She is probably jealous, but at the end of the day all that matters is if you love it and it sounds like you do! Congrats!

Mine wasn’t crazy expensive, but the stone is Aqua Marina so I could have a larger stone for not a crazy price tag. He also designed it with a jeweler, and paid $2,000 for for the materials and labor, But was appraised at $4,000. But it doesn’t matter what price, the most important thing is it’s perfect for you. I don’t like ring competition because someone’s perfect ring could cost $10,000, someone else’s could cost $1,000, or even $100... but they are all priceless in meaning.

Your ring is beautiful! I know your pain. My ring is pretty big and I get a lot of compliments which I love but I have a family member who just loves to talk about how big it is and how much it may have "set my fh back some". I asked him how much it was (out of curiosity) and he didn't want to discuss it so I left it alone. I'm really not concerned with the price. I'm very happy with the ring. It's gotten to the point that this family member is exuding jealousy and it's starting to irritate me. I feel discussing price tags is tacky. I also had a friend who said to me when she seen it that she told her boyfriend that she wants a ring like this but smaller because this is too big. Honestly, I like the attention my ring brings because it shows people that my fh looked at this very beautiful ring and thought it would be just as beautiful on me and I can tell your fh probably had the same thought when he saw yours. So embrace your beautiful rock!!!!! And just think of it as everyone who has something negative to say about your ring are the jealous kids in school who wanna be you! Lol (p.s. I'm including a pic of mine for reference)

People always have something to say. The fact is, if anyone received a beautiful ring like yours they would gladly accept it. Something people are not comfortable with rings that “stand out” because they don’t feel comfortable standing out. Pretty simple. Don’t worry about haters. Your ring is beautiful and he did good!

Ohhhhh yes! It’s odd how that happens. And how when you say that people act like you’ve done something wrong! I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s had this happen!

One of the biggest critics was my, former, MOH! She was like “Oh my! That is going to be hard to do Anything in!” And then follow up with “Not that you do much anyway haha”... or “If you ever break up I guess that’s a few months rent”.or “If be afraid to wear it out, because of what it cost, but maybe people will think it’s fake because it’s so big..” or “That’s more than some peoples car is worth!”..... ( 22yo FSD is waaayyy worse too! Those comments are kind compared to hers!)

The Ring was picked out by him, and only him.
I LOVE it!!!! It is 110% me. Large, sparkly, vintage yet modern, Celtic Claddagh looking in a way- we got engaged in Ireland on my birthday last year. As soon as he bought it he had a separate insurance policy for it.
The ring(s) I’d shown him were in the $8,000-$11,000 range- crazy priced, imo.... but he went several steps further- and size wise too. 1.5c and 2.3 total weight, platinum.

Btw: your ring is STUNNING! He did good!

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Welcome to the WeddingWire community Kristina! Your ring is absolutely stunning!!

Aquamarine is my birthstone, so I already love it. but it looks amazing in your ring!! Congratulations!

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Your ring is beautiful! I'm so happy that it is exactly what you want and that you love it! That's all that matters!!

I love your ring.. Everyone has they own preference, if her man was to give her the same ring you have she would wear it.

I think I have the opposite problem. My ring style isn't the kind you'd choose if you were going for size. It's really unique and cut quite deep. It's more expensive than it looks size wise and it's very shiny and beautiful but I keep getting comments like " 'oh yeah so and so thought I'd pick something less simple.' 'oh like they thought you'd pick something bigger?' or "oh its so cute!," "oh its so little! Like your hand's so little and cute." I'm not going to go around telling people what it costs but it does annoy me that they say things like that. My fiance and my style is that we like things that as unusual but good quality (which the diamond is). I think it'll look good with the wedding band I picked out but I hate that I did feel pressure to up the glitz of the wedding ring. Gah.

Your ring is gorgeous! I'm sorry people suck sometimes! My rings from Walmart. Only $70 and nobody's said anything, I think it's perfect (I picked it out myself) I think rings are person to person. I don't like gawdy jewelry, but my aunt? Loves it. My grandma on the other hand only wears a simple band and doesn't like anything more than that.

I have turned my ring to the inside of my hand sometimes due to this feeling of shame having something so expensive on my hand. None the less, I love looking at it! She probably was just jealous, your ring is beautiful!

Your ring is beautiful and it flatters you well! Judgement reflects on the other person, not you. It typically comes from a place of insecurity. Maybe they don't have a special someone, they're afraid they won't ever get a ring or they're self conscious/not in love with theirs. Either way it has nothing to do with you personally, so try to shrug it off!

I've experienced the same; "omg that ring is so big!" I then found out she & her fiancé picked out her Swarovski engagement ring after the proposal. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and her ring is gorgeous! But in this case she's self conscious about others' diamonds.

Everyone’s rings are beautiful no matter what the size is or cost. They are just mad because they don’t have a ring on their finger or they are jealous. No one has the right to judge. Be in your moment, hours and days and plan a wonderful wedding.

People can be mean. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that. I’m on the opposite end with a smaller ring — keywords I used when shopping: dainty, florals/nature — but I feel that since I’m younger, people would expect me to have a smaller diamond. I’d ignore them (easier said than done, I know).

Although we have not discussed what anything wedding related costs with other people but we have gotten a lot of comments about my ring size. The costs of things aren't anyone else's business unless they are paying for them.