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Ring Shaming because it costs alot? Opposite spectrum

Melissa, on August 8, 2019 at 11:54 AM Posted in Community Conversations 1 137

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A couple days ago, I read a forum discussing how a girls friends were comparing the price of thier rings to hers, and lessening its value because hers was at lower cost.
My question is, "Has anyone dealt with ring shaming because it's obvious your ring is expensive?" When I first got engaged I had a co-worker make little comments on how my ring was soo big, or she'd never wear something like that ect. Recently we just got our wedding bands, and won't lie I'm hoping she doesnt make a comment about that too, we picked a duel band lol I think our sales person scared my fiance with the talk of Anniversary bands in the future!

*I've attached my ring as reference, he did pretty good 🤗

Ring Shaming because it costs alot? Opposite spectrum 1

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Mariah · on August 8, 2019 at 11:59 AM
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Ignore the haters!
someone will always have something to say, i think it all comes down to jealousy! lol but your ring is beautiful! if she says something again i would say "well then be happy its not on your finger, its on mine" lol
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Melle · on August 8, 2019 at 12:01 PM
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Your ring is gorgeous, wear it proudly!

I'm not going to lie, I think I've said that about other people's rings before (though never directly to them) e.g. omg it was so expensive like TOO expensive, etc. But that definitely doesn't take away from the Ring's beauty at all and I guess me doing that for rings at the other end of the spectrum is bad too :x I'll be more mindful of that in the future.
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Hannah · on August 8, 2019 at 12:03 PM
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That's weird to me. I would never discuss the price of my ring or any of my belongings for that matter. All I will tell people is that it is a real diamond, as well as the diamonds on the wedding band and let them imagine the price for themselves (it's probably cheaper than they would think lol). But I just want to know why you care so much about what that girl thinks? It's obviously coming from a place of jealousy or she wouldn't say it at all. Sorry you're experiencing that.
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MrsD · on August 8, 2019 at 12:05 PM
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I've had a few people ask how much my ring costs which is always SO inappropriate (in my opinion). But I've never had anyone say it was too big or too expensive. I think it depends on the friend group too. A lot of our married friends have at least 1 carat center diamonds if not more.
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Erin · on August 8, 2019 at 12:06 PM
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Ovals aren’t my cup of tea, but It is a beautiful ring and it looks good on your hand. That’s what matters. If your FH had the means to buy it without going massively into debt, i don’t see the problem.
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Anna R · on August 8, 2019 at 12:09 PM
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This is so weird. I agree, ignore the haters! I actually made my FH promise me we'd never discuss the cost of my ring and I prefer it that way Some people say "oooh so big!" while others say "ooooh it's so dainty!" and I just smile, thank them, and go on my way. Who cares what anyone thinks?
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Florida Marlins · on August 8, 2019 at 12:15 PM
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I agree that discussing the cost of anything is rude and inappropriate. My ring is an antique opal ring that belonged to his great grandmother and to me it is priceless. I had a diamond engagement ring the first time round and I love my opal ring more.
"I can't believe you asked such a question!" would be my response.
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Kat_ · on August 8, 2019 at 12:15 PM
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I’ve had people make comments on mine too.. but I never let them sink in to the point of causing me shame. They just bounced right off my bliss-filled bubble 🤣
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Stephanie · on August 8, 2019 at 12:15 PM
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It looks beautiful and as long as you love it thats what matters. Too much pressure from other people. Tbh i would flat out tell her that her comments are unnecessary and that she does need to express them to you.
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Stephanie · on August 8, 2019 at 12:16 PM
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^Doesn't need**
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Kelly · on August 8, 2019 at 12:16 PM
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I think it's odd to comment on the cost of the ring. My in laws made a rude comment to my fiance about being cheap because mine is my grandmothers ring. Literally everyone else who's seen it and knows has thought its wonderful to have a sentimental ring.
Someone's always gotta be the negative Nancy I swear. Don't think about the negative Nancy.
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Cyndy · on August 8, 2019 at 12:16 PM
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Your ring is gorgeous and I wouldn’t worry about what people say. Jealously is a terrible thing and as long as you love your ring that’s all that matters.
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Keri · on August 8, 2019 at 12:17 PM
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First off, your ring is GORGEOUS!
My ring is an heirloom and I've received several comments such as, "How many carats?" "What does your FH do for work?" "Is that a real diamond?" "What was that ring appraised/insured for?"Or when discussing honeymoon, "Judging my the rock on your finger, you can afford to go anywhere for your honeymoon."
People are rude. Don't let them get to you. Be proud of that stunning ring.
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Ashley · on August 8, 2019 at 12:20 PM
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I love your ring! And I love my ring!! Fh spent $75 on it and. I wouldn't have it any other way I'm in love with it
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Sexypoodle · on August 8, 2019 at 12:24 PM
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Nope, just compliments about how beautiful it is. I’ve been wearing all three bands and I’ve had a number of funny situations with friends and mostly strangers where they’ll say “WOW” because the ring catches the light and sparkles like crazy 😎 LOL! (had to share a pic because I love my rings and FH did a great job).

But in your case,

1) I’m not sure why someone else’s thoughts are such a big concern if you’re the one wearing and loving YOUR ring.
2) I’ve never understood why people, mainly women, feel the need to discuss so many specific details such as price, etc. and get into a comparison conversation. Why is that even a topic? I would reply, “I don’t know what he spent on the ring, but I love it” (and conversation over)
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Kellie Martinez · on August 8, 2019 at 12:24 PM
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First of all, I love your ring. Second of all, I have actually had a lot of people make comments about my ring being "big" in a surprised, sometimes bitter way.. but it legitimiately isn't. especially compared to some of the women who have posted their rings here. It is 2 carot diamond from zales.. I think it's because I live in a small town and it isn't typical for someone my age to have anything bigger than a tiny simple ring. I don't have a picture with the wedding band but it lines up with the band of the engagement ring with the tiny diamonds.

only picture I have lol
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Laura · on August 8, 2019 at 12:29 PM
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I've heard comments that my fiancee spent to much, and that would could have used the money on something else. We probably could have, but he wanted me to have it because i've been frugal all my adult life and he wanted me to have something special. I didn't know he was proposing, he picked the ring out on his own. We never talked about rings, but he knew what i'd love. Here is mine
my wedding bandmy engagement ring
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MrsV1027 · on August 8, 2019 at 12:33 PM
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Ugh people are so rude! It's never appropriate to comment on the price of a ring. My first ring(previous marriage) had a diamond that was just over half a carrot and I worked as a waitress and people commented all the time about why I was working there if my fiance at the time could afford such a nice diamond. It was his grandmothers and very high quality diamond so that thing was super sparkly lol.
This time around the diamond is a tiny bigger and my mom thinks my diamond is huge but I guess it's big compared to hers. She's the only one who has ever commented on the size this time around. DH said one day he wants to upgrade mine and wishes he had been able to afford a bigger diamond. I love it though and don't want to upgrade for 2 reasons. This is the ring he proposed with and I have short stubby fingers and a bigger diamond would take over my finger lol.
BTW your ring is STUNNING. It looks perfect on your finger....and I'm a bit jealous of your nice longer fingers lol
Here's mine
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Lauren · on August 8, 2019 at 12:34 PM
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Comments other than, "It's beautiful, I'm so happy for you!" are always going to be weird, rude and jealous.
The first thing my aunt said to me was, "what is that, one carat?". Like what if I said it was 4 carats (it obviously is not) would you call me out? Who cares what size it is?! She's notorious for saying rude things to people and not realizing it. She will probably be the first person after we are married to ask if I'm pregnant yet. UGH!
Why can't people just be happy for you and move on? BTW, your ring is beautiful, and I'm so happy for you!
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Courtney · on August 8, 2019 at 12:39 PM
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Your ring is just that.... YOURS! My ring is much smaller compared to my FSILs and I'm fine with that. I'm not much of a jewelry person, I work with my hands all day, and honestly I would probably catch a bigger ring on everything lol.
When my brother said how much he paid for his fiancée's ring, my FH nearly choked. My FH had recently lost his job when he proposed; and promised to upgrade me on our 10 year anniversary.
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