**dsiclaimer I am no way ungrateful and love my fiancé with all my heart and I know it shouldn’t matter I am just looking for advice** so my fiancé and I got engaged last September in Maui, when we got back we went to look st rings together because we wanted to be together during the ring picking...
**dsiclaimer I am no way ungrateful and love my fiancé with all my heart and I know it shouldn’t matter I am just looking for advice**
so my fiancé and I got engaged last September in Maui, when we got back we went to look st rings together because we wanted to be together during the ring picking process and he wanted to me to pick something I’d be happy with, I tried on a few around the mall that same day and kept coming back to my current ring so we got it the same day. Fast forward to the present and sometimes I feel like I rushed picking out a ring and I look at it and feel like it’s too small and I could’ve picked something a bit bigger idk what to do or what I’m really looking for on this but maybe see if someone else has been through this or what would you do?
I think your ring looks great on you and agree with PP's about stop looking at other rings. There are all sorts of varieties of E Rings just like varieties of people. There will always be bigger one's out there, new trends will come and go, you just have to learn to love what you have for the time. An enhancing wedding band might might make all the difference you are looking for and yes you can always upgrade later on in your marriage if you chose to do so. My FH picked out my ring with a jeweler and had my input, but other than emerald solitaire I had no idea what my E ring would look like as in diamond size or band. He did an excellent job and know's my taste very well and went with a 1.25 carat diamond as I'm not overly flashy and I work on a plane and big diamonds are a pain when you work around carts and bags. I will not upgrade my ring and will be getting a plain white gold wedding band, but I'm also not a big jewelry person and neither is my mom who had her original diamond (1/4 carat) up until 2014 when she got a new diamond due to faulty prongs in her original ring. When she got a new diamond she went up to a 1/2 carat and loves it, my dad offered to buy her a 2-3 carat as they can afford it now but she said no thanks. I'm sure you'll fall back in love with your ring again soon!!
Our rings are very similar. I love my ring though. The center stone is tiny in size but was my late grandmother’s stone given to me by my mom. I’m not a fan of big & flashy so this turned out to be perfect. Eventually I’ll do something a tad bigger just so I can reset my current stone in a ring for my mom as I know it was hard for her to part with.
This is my ring. It’s very small and I like the simplicity of it and the fact that he got rose gold for the band since he knows I love rose gold. I do wish however that it was bigger. I’ve seen so many other rings that I love wayy more, but I know this is what he could afford and I’m ok with that.
You kept going back to it which means you really fell in love with it. That being said I have that with my wedding band sometimes. We eloped to get him on my insurance and then went to buy the bands and spent 10 minutes before picking mine. I wish I'd had longer to pick because I sometimes wonder if I picked the right one. I fell in love with it in the store but I def love my e-ring way more than my band. We bought 2nd bands for our Vegas ceremony that was the bigger wedding with the intention of wearing them more and we only wore them while we were in Vegas lol. They are just simple tunsgten with colored inside. Ironically my DH said he wishes he had been able to get me a bigger diamond and wants to upgrade in a few years but I love my ering. I have short stubby fingers and I think a bigger diamond would take over my finger.
Oh my gosh I'm going to join the club of having the same ring too! I was searching the forums for posts just like this- we looked together and I kept coming back to it and this is what he ended up getting me. Unfortunately there's a very noticeable flaw on the face of the diamond that our jeweler told me he couldn't (wouldn't?) fix and that I should be happy he swapped out the center stone for a bigger one... but the more I think of it, and the more I pay attention to other people's rings, the more I sort of regret picking it out as a whole. It's nice to see I'm not alone, the feeling comes and goes, and I hope that you and me OP can re-learn to love what our hearts chose in the first place.
I think your ring is beautiful but to answer your question, yes I am going through the same thing! I picked the ring I always wanted but had never seen on a person and in hindsight, I feel we didn't look at enough diamonds. We basically looked at two and called it a day. Now, I've also noticed things that made it not work with my lifestyle or in the way I wanted.I thought about it for months before I finally spoke up. My fiance wasn't mad. He didn't take it personally since I chose the ring. I'm a big jewelry person and he knows I'm not materialistic but I like what I like. We know other people who have gone back and changed their ring or stopped wearing the ring because it didn't suit their lifestyle. He said he wants me to love the ring since I plan to wear it everyday and I love jewelry. We talked to our jeweler and now we are exploring other possibilities.
Bringing it up was the hardest part honestly but he was very calm and understanding.
Oh my goodness! You are NOT alone.. I don't mean to sound ungreatful either but my fiance bought my first ring with out me and of course I loved it but one time we went into the Jewelers together end ended up leaving with another ring I saw 🤦🏻♀️ Fast forward to today and I feel the same way you do.. I have a perfectly beautiful diamond ring but now I want an oval cut Mossinite ring!!! Ugghhh... good thing is that he’s totally okay with it lol
I think its beautiful and I think that since you kept going back to it, you really do like it. Has someone said anything about the size to make you doubt that, or has anything happened to make you think twice?
I go through the same thing sometimes and I'm even the one who picked out and purchased my diamond! I used to manage a jewelry store and I've played with literally hundreds of engagement rings. The setting my FH bought is there only one I've fallen in love with, but from time to time I wish a little that I'd bought a bigger diamond to go in it.
... Then I check diamond prices for the qualities I want and decide I love mine all the same!! Haha.
Remind yourself about the reasons you fell in love with your ring in the first place. If that doesn't help, then consider asking the store you purchased it from about their trade in policy. Many jewelry stores will allow ring trade ins with certain stipulations. If you're wearing it every day, you deserve to love it.
I think your ring is pretty! I did actually go through your same sentiments on my ring. Before we got engaged my fiance asked what kind of ring I wanted and I asked for an oval solitaire and that's what he got me. It seemed small at first, so I would go to the store and try on different rings but didn't love those either. My ring has grown on me and has sentimental value. I even miss it when I forget to put it on lol. My fiancé took his time in picking out a good sparkly stone, so I know he did put thought into it. So now I can't imagine trading it in,I would maybe just change the setting if anything. Since you and your fiance picked out the ring together I don't think he would be upset, I would talk to him about it or see about changing the setting. I think you should definitely be happy with it since it's something you wear every day.
Honey, you're meant to wear this ring for the rest of your life, you should love it every time you look down at it. Get something you're happy with!
If you decide you want something else, go back to the jeweler you bought it from and see what they can do about either resetting the diamonds into a style you like more or trying to exchange it. Make sure to do your research and find the style you REALLY love, though!
And since you picked it out yourself and it wasn't your fiance's choice, I don't think you'll be hurting any feelings! Hope this helps
I know others have mentioned some really good comments/tips on your ring. I just wanted to share that I too felt the same way. My fiance took me shopping for my ring, I chose it, but there was a moment when I had my doubts. I wanted to be open about my concerns, talked with him, and I was very happy when he reassured me it was ok if I wanted to change it or keep it. I ended up keeping it, and I am just glad I will have a loving and understanding husband.