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Regan
Expert June 2017

Ring Bearer Too Young?!

Regan, on July 17, 2016 at 3:39 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

So my fiancé has two nephews. They will be the only two children at the wedding. By the time of the wedding, the oldest will be three and a half and the younger will be one and a half. Originally, the plan was for them to both have the title "ring bearers" but with our date chosen the youngest will probably not be able to walk down the isle with just older brother. Is it silly to still have him be titled ring bearer if the matron of honor or the best man (their mom and dad) walks them both down? I don't know. I think it's fine and that people would understand but fiancé keeps asking about it and thinks it's silly.

I just feel like it's awkward for there to be only two children at the whole wedding but only one has a "title".

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Latest activity by OG Matt, on July 18, 2016 at 3:13 PM
  • TMNT Bride
    Super October 2016
    TMNT Bride ·
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    I think at those ages the older one would be able to walk the younger one down the aisle. I've seen weddings where parents have accompanied younger children down the aisle or even pulled them in a wagon. However, I don't think they both need titles. I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews and they will be the only children at the wedding. I am only having one RB and one FG. The other 2 will not have titles.

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  • mimitrue
    Master January 2016
    mimitrue ·
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    My son was 18 months at time of wedding and he was our ring bearer...he didn't make it down the aisle but we had him pulled in a wagon that we brought as back up. I think the title is just fine even if he doesn't make it down. We had 5 kids in our wedding and they shared titles.

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  • Ali
    Master June 2017
    Ali ·
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    With kids this young all the planning in the world and it will come down to the moment of. He could walk down the aisle with his brother just fine at age or he may prefer to be with mommy and daddy. Flexibility will be your friend with this.

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  • EmilyJ
    VIP May 2016
    EmilyJ ·
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    Mine were 4 and a half and and 19 months and they made it fine. They ran down, but they had the rings and everything, I think you'll be okay.

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  • Regan
    Expert June 2017
    Regan ·
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    Thanks everyone! I am totally go with the flow about him making it down with brother or mom or dad. I just didn't know if guests would think it was weird for both of them to be ring bearers. Most guest will know how those boys are our world though anyways!! Smiley smile

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    Guests will be thinking about these kinds of details soooooooo much less than you are, I promise. No one will notice or care.

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    Its possible the big brother would be able to help the little guy make it all the way down. Our RB will be 4 years old at our wedding, and she's actually been a FG twice already, when she was much younger. I think she was probably one and a half at both weddings. The first time, she had a bit of trouble getting diwn, accompanied by the RB that was slightly older (no one cared). The second time, she had a co-FG who was 5, and things went perfectly.

    If you and the parents decide the boys need an adult escort, no one is going to mind. They'll just be thinking "they're so cute," no matter how the boys do or don't make it down the aisle.

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  • Crystal
    Devoted September 2016
    Crystal ·
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    I think that's fine. We actually have two ring bearers and two flower girls. The oldest ring bearer and oldest flower girl will pull the two youngest ones in a wagon. You could have the older one walk the younger one down or have their mom walk them down

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  • Pinky Winter Promise
    Master February 2016
    Pinky Winter Promise ·
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    So we had a ring bearer that was going to be that young (about 18 months) and he would walk down with his two older sisters (the flower girls) but things changed last minute and that whole family reversed their RSVP 10 days before the wedding. (They canceled).

    In the end we had the 3 other little ones that were coming to the wedding be our flower girls and ring bearer. We still did have a 1.5 year old - but this time it was a flower girl. The idea was that they would all walk down the aisle together. What happened? Well our youngest flower girl arrived 1.5 minutes before having to walk down the aisle (the family got lost somehow when going to the church) and was handed to my sister/MOH. The other flower girl got scared and took my sister's hand. So my sister walked down with her bouquet, while carrying a little one, and holding the hand of the other. My sister was suppose to walk down the aisle alone but things changed and we went with the flow.

    The ring bearer walked on his own (he was about 4) - we were also his 3rd or 4th wedding where he was the RB. He was funny saying "I have to hold the rings again?? I've done this so many times" - with a cute eye roll. (We trusted him with our rings even though people thought we were insane.. He has always held the rings and has never lost them).

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  • Kelli
    Super October 2017
    Kelli ·
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    My ring boy is going to be close to 2 years old by my wedding this is the idea I have but a black wagon and have his older sister bring it down! I got this idea from Pinterest


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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Let the Best Man hold the rings, though.

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