Ring Bearer Etiquette

I always heard it's around 2-5 my nephew is 3 and he's it. What you can do is if your best friend has a little boy you can ask them. I don't know if a pre teen would want to be one honestly but it's your wedding your call *** my nephew in his attire. <3

If there's no one obvious that fits the bill, you could always just skip it. We don't know anyone that age so we're just having a flower girl and that's it.

I have a 5 and 8 year old

Our youngest son will be 2 when we have our wedding. He is going to be our ring bearer he is 7 months old right now

My sister's was 10. He could carry the rings and behaved perfectly (no possible meltdowns like with a pre-schooler). Her flower girl was 9 (her mother was a bridesmaid). It worked out perfectly for a formal, evening wedding, with reception lasting until 11:30 PM. (I think the entrée course was served around 9:00 PM).

P.S. My Mom told me that back in her day, junior bridesmaids and groomsmen were in the 12-18 range, and flower girls and ring bearers below that age. No one had toddlers, babies pulled in wagons, etc. participate. In fact, a lot of churches today have a minimum age, to be in a bridal party.

I've officiated weddings with pre-teen ring bearers and they're the best. You can trust them with the actual rings and they will nail the ceremony. Plus kids who are old enough will appreciate being part of your special day.

Little ones are cute especially if they are your own kids. Just be prepared for whatever they do (stage fright, throw the rings, cry etc.) I've seen it all.

People have had their grandmothers be flower girls. Those roles can be filled by anyone.

Okay. That makes me feel better. People were saying that he might feel embarrassed for being a ring bearer. IMHO I think he wouldn't mind because he loves me. Thank you everyone for your input!

There is no age restriction, but this trend of asking a 2-year-old to be a ring bearer is relatively recent. A preteen boy is actually the perfect age for the job whereas the 2-year-old has no clue what's going on. I'm a firm believer that ring bearers should be anywhere from 5-12. Anything younger is way too young and anything older may be a situation in which the boy doesn't want to do it. I apply the same age range to flower girls (not a fan of grandmothers as flower girl).

You can skip it if it doesn't feel right. FH's nephew is 8, but we decided it was too much fuss and he'll just come as a guest.