Revealing your dress to your fiancé pre wedding

My H was with me when I picked out the dress. Don't stress it, you're fine

I don't think there's anything wrong with that! You're both excited lol that's a good thing I know some people are more old fashioned and don't show their FH until they're walking down the aisle, but there's also the more recent trend of the first look-- where you show him the dress and have it photographed to catch his reaction before you start the ceremony and walk down the aisle.

Personally, I really want to show my FH my dress when I finally get it for the same reason because he really has an idea in mind to see me in a mermaid style dress, and I want to make sure he likes my dress. I have no doubt that he'll have the most mind-blowing reaction and think I'm beautiful no matter what, but I totally get where you're coming from!

If you think he'll forget in a year and you don't care for believing in superstitions, then I think you're fine.

I didn't. I think it's ok you did because he will still be awestruck by you in it on your wedding day

I was very confident in my decision, but something about "keeping a secret" from my FH was very hard. I also showed him a stock picture (not of me in it) shortly after purchasing my dress. I know he remembers some of it because we have discussed alterations to the max (I literally have no family or close friends nearby, so he is my go-to venter), but I don't feel like me showing him ruined anything. I highly doubt he'll even remember the details once he see's it on in real life.

Yup! He saw the whole thing. But after alternations it might not look the same same anyway. I'm not worried about it

I picked out my dress with my bride. For one thing, I wanted our dresses to coordinate. But I actually did the same thing at my first wedding, with my groom. I figured they would be looking at the dress more than I would, so I wanted something they liked.

I think it's fine if you want to! I am not. It's kind of fun that he keeps trying to guess it. He hints at what he hopes it is (he wants a form-fitting fit and flare, which is exactly what I got! I've made him watch Say Yes to the Dress a few times lol). He doesn't know the shape of my dress for certain, but he knows there's some lace. We are doing a 1st look, and I'm excited to see the look on his face when he sees me for the first time. I doubt it would take away from the moment if he saw a picture since it looks so much better in person, but I'm having fun keeping this 1 secret lol.

I’m super bad with keeping surprises so I gave him a peak at my dress inside the black clothes bag. I didn’t take it out so most of the dress was covered. Knowing my FH he isn’t going to remember any of it even if I showed him the whole dress with me in it. Don’t worry! It’s not a big deal.

I didn't show him my dress, but he knows what my boots & HAMU will look like!

My FH will not stop trying to get me to slip up and give him details about the dress. I refuse to let him know/see it. I don't think it's bad luck or anything so I wouldn't worry about it. I know what you mean it's hard when you share everything with someone you want to talk to them about it.

Ahhh I would never! Lol we are being very traditional but I’m not against showing your FH your dress! Hope he loves it! Plus, it looks completely different from in a picture compared to the day of!

View Quoted Comment My FW and I haven’t shared ours yet.. I’m wearing ivory and I’m pretty sure she’s wearing black but I don’t know. It’s been hard planning and coordinating decor, flowers, colors, etc. We’ve each stepped out of the room when we’ve shared our dresses with vendors and friends too! Lol

I really want to show him. But he refuses to look at any photos.

My FH would be extremely upset if I showed him the dress prior. He has been very vocal about not wanting to see it until I am walking down the aisle so I would never ruin that moment for him by showing it to him before hand. This is obviously a choice that we have made but that definitely doesn't mean that you have to do that. Now days, with so many people doing a first look, it is really no different than showing it to him a month before or an hour before lol. You do you girl!

Haha, my husband was SO adamant about not seeing the dress before the wedding, and that he was so excited and couldn’t wait to see it. So after we got married I asked him about it and about what his thought process was when he saw it for the first time when I walked down the aisle, and he tells me that when I was walking down the aisle he was in such a trance with ME that he literally didn’t even NOTICE the dress until mid-way through the ceremony hahaha. He said in the first 5 minutes “it was just a blur of white, and you.” Lol 😂 I am glad we kept it as a surprise but... honestly in hindsight I don’t think it would’ve made as much of a difference, as long as he doesn’t see you in the dress with hair done and makeup done and accessories all put together

I'm traditional in the fact that I really don't want FH to see it until our wedding day, but he's super adamant about it! I've had it hanging in my closet in it's garment bag since it came in. You can't see through the garment bag, but anytime FH is at my house, he makes sure he's no where near my closet so he can't see it.

I accidentally showed him a picture!, lol, but I’m pretty sure he wasn’t paying attention or that he surely won’t remember it lol. But every time we watch some kind of wedding / dress show I’m always pointing out the dresses asking what does he like to see if it’s close to mines

Lol I get why you did it! I've been so so close on multiple occasions but I've been able to resist the urge. I think it's okay though because it'll be different on your wedding day when he sees you in it all dolled up

So right after my FH and I got engaged I would mess with him whenever we went thrift shopping by trying on dresses I thought looked ugly on the rack and asking him what he thought. After doing this for about a month I tried on one for the joke but fell in love with it so he's seen me in the dress. Oh well. Now I don't have to care when we do family pictures before the ceremony and he sees it. He didn't see the veil so maybe that will surprise him.

My FH and I are traditional. He wants to be surprised when I walk down the aisle. Someone asked us about the first look and he did not want do to the first look. I agreed with him because I also want to see his handsome face when he sees me in my dress for the first time. It what you and your FH prefer to do to make your day extra special.