Resentment from coworkers

I'm so glad I work from home....

I think you might be reading into it a bit.

If I wasn't invited to a wedding shower I'm not sure I'd ask how it went because it might be inviting more awkward conversation.

Don't bring up your wedding or any pre wedding parties in the office going forward.

Lololol SHE'S being childish? You aren't inviting her to your wedding or but you want her to GAF about your wedding festivities? Girl..

What if she doesn't care about your weekend? Did she start the conversation?

Your original question said, "she hasn't said one word to me or anything asking how my shower went and this is a normal Monday morning conversation." So I think me saying "why do you want her to ask you about your wedding shower" is a valid question not turning it back on you.

I think you're being too sensitive about it. I have plenty of work friends who I talk to everyday and I am close with. At least three people call themselves my work mom or my work bff. None of them are invited to my work. None. If people ask about it, I'll talk about my wedding (because I won't work here when it happens) but I rarely bring it up. A few weeks ago, a coworker asked what I was doing over the weekend. I said I had a HMU trial and a cake tasting. The next Monday, she didn't ask me how it went. But I wasn't upset. No one is excited about your wedding as you are...especially if they're not invited.

Your coworker might feel just as awkward as you - I agree with Powers2 - maybe she didn't ask you because she didn't want to invite more awkward conversation. She didn't want you to feel uncomfortable for not inviting her.

As far as her not asking you anything about your weekend, yes it's polite. But it's also Monday morning and she might be busy or had to run. Maybe she feels just as weird as you. You don't know.

You obviously feel uncomfortable at work because you're not inviting coworkers. Which is fine.

It just means you have a conscious and you care about other people's feelings. Hell, I might be quitting but it's not comfortable for me to tell someone they're not invited. IMO, you should be thankful she didn't ask about your wedding shower because I doubt she would give you anything besides an uncomfortable/awkward, "wow, that sounds so great." I'm not trying to be rude. If she ends up avoiding you and never talking to you again because of something so silly, that's on her.

Obviously this didn't come off the way I want it to looking @chivy comments. I am the type of person to avoid conflict and now there seems to be a conflict or maybe I am assuming we will find out. I have a conscience and would love to invite everyone I could but I do want just family and friends. I just don't want this type of conflict after the wedding either because people weren't invited. I was just asking if anyone has been through this and what to do. That's it.

I don't get it. You're not inviting them so you don't talk about it much with them. Cool. So now you think they're resentful because they're not talking about it?

Or am I reading this wrong?

I would just forget about it.

She may have just forgotten. I forget what some of my coworkers say about their weekends a lot. I've forgotten to ask a coworker how her baby shower went. It happens. If she is mad, then so be it. They should understand that you are not close with them outside of work.

I feel like it's really easy to be over-sensitive about these things when you're wedding planning because you're so concerned about who you're inviting, who might be mad about not being invited, who are you talking about the wedding in front of, etc.

She may have just had a bad morning, or didn't want to make you feel uncomfortable by asking about the shower? Who knows! Let it go and don't read too much into it

I think you're over-thinking things.

So you try not to talk about the wedding because she's not invited, but then you tell her about the shower she's not invited to, then think she's resentful and childish because she doesn't ask about the shower she wasn't invited to? Did I get all that?

No need for sarcasm @justplaincat I was just asking a question and yes you missed the point. The key work there was "try" not to talk about it. It's hard not to when every weekend revolves around wedding planning

Right, my bad. Obviously I'm the one who missed the point. Carry on.

"The key wor(d) there was "try" not to talk about it. It's hard not to when every weekend revolves around wedding planning"

I don't get why people have to "try" so hard to not talk about their wedding planning though. This was literally my morning convos with my co-workers who were not invited:

Them: How was your weekend?

Me: Great. Yours?

Them: Fun we did this and that. What did you do?

Me: Not much, just hung around the house.

DONE. Why on earth is that hard?

I doubt she's resentful. I'd be happy if I stopped getting coworker wedding invitations. I feel obligated to go even though we aren't close. Then there's the shower gift, the work shower gift (because obvi I'm still going to contribute otherwise I'd look like an asshole), and then the wedding gift. Not getting an invite would probably save me a few hundred bucks per coworker. She was probably just excited about her weekend and forgot to ask about yours. No biggie.

@mmb everyone is different and I enjoy talking about my wedding I'm sorry if you don't. Thanks for correcting my words, I didn't realize the grammar police were out to get me lol.

ETA: I don't mean to be sarcastic it's not me but if I ask a simple question there is no need to be rude

Andrea, it's fine if you enjoy talking about your wedding, but understand that not everyone enjoys hearing about it - even IF they were going to be invited to it.