Resentment from coworkers

She might be...just let it be and don't bring it up. if she brings it up later, let her down easy by saying you had a restricted number you could invite and kept it to family and close friends.

I'd honestly let it go unless she says something to you. She could've had a bad weekend or is possibly silently fuming that she wasn't invited. Either way, it's her problem. Like you mentioned you're not close, if you were it would be a different story.

I was in a similar situation with a co worker where I was invited to her wedding, but not the shower, and I also found out I was a B listed guest, that stung, and I made a silent agreement with myself not to go out of my way for her, but I'm still friendly, etc. If your co worker wants to be petty, it's her problem.

Be more careful to avoid talking about the wedding moving forward.

She could have not cared about how it went, or could be upset. Let it go.

I would really avoid talking about the wedding/wedding events going forward. I did a lot of wedding related things this weekend, but when a co-worker asked what I did I just said left the wedding items out of the conversation.

You said you mentioned it was your wedding shower before the weekend began. This conversation took place this morning. When you spoke about your weekend this morning, did you bring it up again? If you didn't, maybe she forgot? I mean, to ask us what she's thinking is like asking us to predict next year's weather. We don't know. Let it go.

Let it go. Maybe she's mad, or maybe she just had a bad weekend or something. Next time she asks what you're doing over the weekend, just don't say anything about wedding stuff.

Thank you for the advice. I feel like she was hinting at being invited to the wedding before also. When we first booked our venue before I had a guest list finalized she was talking about how she invited her coworkers and her boss! I would never do this as I don't plan on staying here much longer possibly looking for another job after the wedding. I really would like to keep work and my private life separate.

It's not more that she forgot @gymrat she usually asks how my weekend was in general every Monday morning over coffee and this morning it was nothing just a "hi"

I'm in the same spot. I don't talk about these things at work unless specifically asked about them. I'd just let it go and not say anything. If she wants to address it, then she can.

Oh okay. Maybe SHE had a bad weekend? Did you ask her?

I agree that you shouldn't talk about your wedding to people who are not invited, but what has happened at my job is that people ask me. They keep asking me for all of the details. I feel like it would be rude to not answer them. I've only had one issue with a woman at work. She refuses to talk to me because I didn't invite her to the wedding (she actually complained about it to my boss!) but everyone else at work has been happy for me and they have been very understanding about not being invited. OP, I'd just not bring it up again or change the subject by asking about what she is up to.

I asked her about her weekend yes and she just talked about herself and how she went to a concert nothing bad then walked away

It's a little childish too figuring I am 27 and she's in her 40s with acting like this. So it's not like we would even hang out outside of work being that age difference.

I think you're being too sensitive to this. She's probably neglected to ask you about your weekend on more than one occasion, but you didn't notice it because you weren't feeling bad about not inviting her to something. She said hi to you and chatted about the concert. She's fine.

Besides, what will you do if she IS resentful? She'll get over it. It'll be a much bigger train wreck if you ask her "Are you mad that I don't like you enough to have you at my wedding?"

Regardless of whether you talk about it at work or not, coworkers will assume they are invited. I have no idea why. Just say we're keeping it limited to close friends and family.

Why are you upset she didn't ask you about your wedding shower? It would have been so awkward to talk about since she isn't invited!

She might be upset, or she just might feel awkward about it if she thought she would have been invited... Be happy she's not bringing it up.

Oh.

IDK, I wouldn't give any more thought to this. If she's being salty about it let her, and offer her some Gatorade. I'd ignore her and carry on like everything is peachy.

Also, none of my coworkers assumed they were invited.

I don't think OP is upset she didn't ask her about the wedding shower - I think she's uncomfortable and/or awkward that a coworker she normally has monday morning "how was your weekend" conversations is now avoiding her assumedly because she thinks she's not invited to the wedding. Unfortunately, OP - tough for her. If you're not close outside of work, that's not going to change because she's acting like a child. I would agree to maybe not bring up wedding activities. I have a few people who have point blank asked me if they're invited to the wedding and if they can bring a plus one (for reference, I'm also 27 and this woman was 62,,,,), I'm in a little bit different of a situation because I'm quitting one week before the wedding so I don't really care if anyone resents me though.

ETA - I just read your comment about how you talked about the concert she went to. I was under the impression she was avoiding you. She probably didn't ask about the wedding shower because she wasn't invited. Is it childish for her to not want to talk about something because she wasn't invited? Probably. But the real question is, why do you want her to ask you about the wedding shower? So you can tell her how much fun you had and how great it was and all the gifts you got? I would probably ask a coworker out of politeness but I wouldn't really care if I wasn't invited.

I just think it's rude to talk about yourself in a conversation and not ask about the other persons weekend. I am not saying why didn't she ask about my shower. She didn't ask about my weekend in general which we always chat about. I am not a bragger I just figured it was a normal conversation to ask how each other's weekend was and wanted advice on how to deal with this since we work directly with each other all the time. No need to turn this on me.

So this is perceived resentment that may or may not exist? Ok. I'm out.