Renting Cabin for Destination Wedding. Who Stays in It With Us?

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Having everyone in one locations sounds like a good idea until it becomes a reality. Some people would find this to be exciting and fun. Others would see it as a nightmare. What you want is to have all your family and friends living in one place. What you are going to get is night owls, early risers, introverts and extroverts living in a space that seemed really large but now has gotten very small. This will be a very stressful situation for them and more importantly you.

Listen to your mother and find a location that is diverse with large and small cabins. This way, people who want to share their space can and those who don't, don't have to.

IMO, I agree the ideal thing would be an area where there are lots of smaller cabins and an open space/party room where people can hang out together if they want to. Probably depends on your group but personally, sleeping in one giant house with 40 of my nearest and dearest kinda sounds like my worst wedding nightmare. I would want a little peace and quiet with the option to walk 100 yards and meet up with people if I want the social time. But that's just me.

Thanks guys. It's like the more simple I want things to be, the more complicated I make them. I do feel more comfortable with confirmation of my mom's advice! Hate to tell her she is right! LOL.

You don't have to TELL her lol! Just do it.

I totally agree with not having everyone in the same space. Suffice it to say that our house was invaded by 4 family members for our wedding - the rest were coming and going - and I was homicidal by the end of their stay.

You'll definitely want to have more space. Can it be moved to a state park? A lot of them have cabins of varying sizes. That way, if people want to stay together to save money, they can get one of the larger cabins together, if they would rather be alone they can get a smaller one? There is usually a main building where you can have ceremony/reception and their people can do the catering? I've seen this done. The other nice thing is that they usually have activities around the park to give your guests things to do when they aren't doing wedding things.

Personally no one would be staying in it with me. I'd put friends in there and stay in one f the other cabins. It's my wedding I want to get it on without worrying about thw living room hearing us.

I liked the idea of getting married at the cabin so much I didn't look at the state park. I just may look into that. Thanks for the idea!

LOL!!!! At the get it on! However, already have a plan for that. We are going to spend the wedding night at the lodge nearby compliments of my daddy. I just thought having us in the same house the 2 days beforehand wouldve been good because all my family is in Alabama and his is here in Georgia and I wanted a little more family bonding. Plus, only one of my friends live in GA. The other two are out of state. My mom says plan some activities? Maybe I need to buy a how to plan an intimate wedding destination book?

I'll give you a guests persepctive. We went to an event like this. It was awful! We knew the couple, and a few other friends. But their families were complete strangers, and we had to share a bathroom... DH and I were newlyweds, and we wanted some privacy. We want to be able to have sexy sexy time, or just talk without having everyone else listen to us.

There were a few kids. I don't mind kids (we have 5!). But this one 5 year old boy got up around 7am, and turned the TV on as loud as he could get it. There were people sleeping in the living room... One couple got into a fight, and everyone could hear it. Talk about awkward...

The idea of having everyone close by is a good one. But they need their own place.

Yeah don't tell her shes right. Lol

I completely understand. We picked a very large beach front condo complex for our DW in Maui. Our first thought was that the prices were all over the place so it gave some financial flexibility to our guests. Second was that we wanted something affordable for us so that we could afford to treat our guests to a good time. We are having a hosted Welcome BBQ, a Catered Rehearsal Dinner and going away Breakfast after the wedding. We booked 3 condos for us, our kids w/my Mother, and our photographer and his wife. We even picked a condo for ourselves on the ground floor opening to a garden area and close to the BBQ so that we could set up a bar and let the families with small kids have it easier to mingle and watch the kids. Yeah even with all of that only one other person has decided to stay there. My SIL told my brother that she wants to stay at one of the 5 star hotels nearby because its her vacation and she doesn't want to cook and clean.

Cont. Oh well we are still going to have a blast and I am letting it go.

@Meghan, Oh wow, I would have moved to another lodge or hotel. FH and I have 7 kids and we love kids but ours are older and we have found that we just enjoy adult time with friends at this point in our lives. It's nice to not have small ones running around all the time.

It wouldn't be my choice, honestly. I had a couple who did a beachhouse wedding last summer and they had their bridal party/plus ones stay with them. It was actually fun for them because they were going to set up and they had a different expectation going into it. As a guest, this would not appeal to me at all.

It's also a lot more work for you.

Stephanie, that is what I want just at a cabin! Did you have a problem with people not being able to afford it? I mean I have put everyone on notice from the day he proposed to start saving for our destination wedding even though I didn't know where it was.