Reminding Guests about the Wedding

I would say no. If I sent in my RSVP and said I was coming and someone called to "remind" me, I would be pretty annoyed.

The RSVP is the reminder to go. I would be pretty annoyed as a guest if I got a message from the Bride and Groom reminding me to show up. It would be insulting and insniuate that they don't trust me or think I'm flaky,

I don't think so. Like you said, they are adults. They know how to keep track of their own schedule.

I wouldn't remind them. If they have RSVP'd, it is their responsibility to show up.

No. The RSVP should be enough. Lots of people (myself included) hang invites on their fridge so they won't forget.

I wouldn't do it, but if you can't resist, send a text or email that says something innocuous like, "Looking forward to celebrating with you this weekend!" a few days before.

Call them if the RSVP deadline has passed. Explain you have to give a final head count by a certain date. "Haven't received your RSVP. If I don't hear from you by (date) I will mark you as no"

I would text them and say "I'm so excited to see you next weekend!! FH has mentioned a few times how excited he is you're coming. Let me know if you need directions, when we went the first time we got lost." Or something like that.

Definitely not. Lots RSVP yes and just don't show

David'sBride, I think the guests have RVSP'd though, according to the OP.

We are having the same issue. We invited FH's Father, step-mother, and Grandmother because his mom forced us to. He has no relationship with any of these people and his dad is notorious for committing to something and not showing up. We just kind of have to wait and see what he is going to do.

I wouldn't call them. If they don't show up, that's on them. We had some no shows with no explanation after RSVPing yes. It sucks and it's annoying, but there's not much you can do.

Don't call to remind but definitely as someone else said send a message saying can't wait to see you do you have any questions or anything, which is a) a reminder or b) a chance to guilt them into telling you they're not coming

Are they travelling? FH could always ring and ask if they're ok with booking accom etc.

I feel the same way !!! So many flaky people. But if we are important to them then i would hope they would remember our special day.

I'm thinking they won't show because I haven't heard a peep from them since the intital rsvp. They are all coming from out of town and never been to D.C., so I figured they'd have some questions. It would be funny if my guests ended up flaking out.

Something that the banquet manager told us to do regarding ppl we think may not show even though they RSVPed yes: don't count them in your final numbers given to the venue. So say your final number is 100 ppl and you have 5 ppl think may not show--pay for 95. If those 5 show up at the wedding, the venue will accommodate them and you will pay for them that night. Now I get every venue is different and this may not be feasible. However I did this. And it helped guard me against some of the no shows.

I wouldn't remind guests if they're already RSVP'd. There is no need to micromanage your guests.

I am not going to lie, but this has crossed my mind once ( I would never do it, but just something I have thought about ONLY for certain people) because a dear friend of mine rsvpd for my bridal shower ( she was the first one, according to my maid of honor) and the day of the shower, one hour into it, she was still not there. Now, she would typically call or text to let me know she's running late, or whatever, but that day it was NOTHING, so I got worried and texted her asking if she was ok. Come to find out, she had completely forgotten ( she was in the middle of her exams) and felt so embarrassed. She immediately called uber and showed up to the shower - it meant a lot to me that she came, even though she forgot.

Basically, she kept thanking me for that text, if not that, she would've forgotten and be upset.

Again, I agree with everyone else - no need to remind them. Just thought I would share my experience. Also, Bridal Showers are not as grand ( nowhere near, lol) as Weddings, so hopefully, guests will remember to come.

ETA - Keep in mind, that I had already received her gift at home. ( she mailed it to my house from my registry) so I wasn't out there hunting for gifts, I just genuinely wanted my friend to be there with me.

If these are people you see or talk to normally, you can throw in how you are so excited for your wedding next week or that you can't believe the wedding is only a week away. If they are relatives you see less often then I don't think that there is much you can do.