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Nice post. I completely agree with you. Every bride/groom on here has different visions, budgets and influences to what their wedding will be. People don’t need to be harsh or gang up on them because they don’t agree.

I love this post!

This is a discussion forum. I agree that people shouldn’t be attacked for their opinion, but when someone asks for advice/opinions then isn’t it better that others respond honestly? I’ve asked advice on here before and I didn’t always agree with the comments, some were harsh, but that’s how discussion forums are. Everyone is different and that’s totally okay. Telling people how to post is not okay. There are mods here for a reason. If you take issue with something said, you can flag it and the mods will decide if it’s appropriate or not.

View Quoted Comment Not trying to stir uptrouble, just saying I've seem a lot of posts that are horribly harsh and even making fun of the original poster. I am simply saying lets try to support everyone, and try to stay civil 😊😊

There’s a difference between answering honestly and being rude or out of line. Some people act like they set the rule book for weddings and they didn’t and need to tone it down a little. They have a very condescending way of speaking in posts

This is a great post!

View Quoted Comment The problem is this is a message board. You can’t read a persons tone based on text. I really haven’t seen any posts lately where brides were being outright attacked, but every time I’ve seen anything I’ve reported it.

View Quoted Comment Exactly what I mean! Thank you forestwed!

Very well said! I totally agree. Positivity and kindness are key.

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome! Thanks for starting the post I feel bad for a lot of people on here who probably leave the site because of how they’re treated.

Thank you for posting this! I honestly am alarmed by how cruel some of these comments seem and it’s great that someone finally made a post addressing this. We are all in this together so if a bride is outright saying “please no negativity” then others really need to respect that.

View Quoted Comment This!!🙌🏽

Agree 100%. There are ways to get your opinion across without being rude or hurtful. I have always been a strong believer in "its not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it" 😊

Love this post! Yes we want opinions but geez some people are very rude and judgmental on here!

I actually haven't seen posts where brides are bring pit down or attacked. This is an online discussion forum. There are several different opinions on every subject. If people don't want honest opinions, they shouldn't post. If someone chooses to make a post or comment to give some information or ask a quesion, they need to be prepared for others to respond and possibly not agree with them. Just because someone disagrees, it didn't mean that they are putting the original poster did or attacking them. They are giving an honest opinion. And from what I have read, it's done in a respectful way most of the time. The few times it gets out of hand, there are moderators to remove inappropriate comments.
I think what would actually be more helpful would be for people to not be so sensitive about comments other people post. If you ask a question, you will get honest answers. They may not always agree with your opinion. If you don't want to hear what other people have today about your choices, don't post them.

Danielle, are you aware that you're in violation of the community guidelines by telling us how to post? Just curious.

I agree people shouldn't be insulting or making personal attacks in their responses but, this is a discussion forum and honest opinions should be encouraged. Just because people don't agree with the original poster doesn't make the opinion invalid.

I actually value the honest feedback I've always received when I've posted. If someone only wants validation they should ask their mirror for advice instead of an Internet forum. A variety of truthful opinions is usually highly valued since it can let you see things from an alternate perspective. If everything was always sunshine and rainbows and there were no dissenting opinions I wouldn't be here since that isn't helpful.

If you see something egregious or violating the posting rules then feel free to flag the comment and moderators will deal with it. Personally, I haven't seen anything crazy lately but, generally, comments/threads get removed pretty fast if things get out of control (which seems to be pretty infrequent).

Thank you for this!! Sometimes just by saying what we’re doing and sharing, people gang up and get so rude- when I didn’t even ask for their opinion on that particular tidbit. We all have such different lives and different situations that not everyone will fit into the perfect mold, and many get aggressive if you disagree. Really discouraging :/ of course everyone is welcome so share their opinion- that’s why we’re here! But beating a dead horse after someone has explained why they’re doing what they’re doing and and goodness- you’d think you intentionally personally offended them! We come for help and support and YES, honest opinions, but holy cow I’m afraid to say anything that I’m not already positive is perfect etiquette.

View Quoted Comment Perfect advice

Sometimes I want to post on here and get advice but I’m honestly too concerned about “those brides” who are just here to belittle and attack people. I truly feel that this happens often and there are reoccurring people I’ve noticed on posts. I agree with you completely, people can give their opinion without being rude about it. There is a difference between “I don’t think it’s right to xxxxx” and “OMG WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT”. I don’t get how as an adult, people don’t know that.