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Taina
Dedicated October 2017

Reimbursement for Wedding Expenses?

Taina, on January 27, 2017 at 3:01 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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Hello! My FMIL has been battling cancer (2nd round after a remission early last year). We had originally planned on getting married close to our home because it was only a short drive from her (about 3-4 hours), but she's on some new chemo treatments and the side effects are too severe for her to travel, so less than two months from our wedding date, we are having to move everything to where she lives. Our budget wasn't big to begin with, but we lost money on the hotel, the cake, and our day of coordinator. Two people in our wedding party already booked their hotel room for the night before the wedding, but instead of booking through our room block, they booked through a friend and ended up with a non-refundable room. They are unable to travel to our NEW wedding because of work and lost the money on the hotel. I feel like they might ask us to reimburse them for the room, since they recently wed and asked guests who RSVP'd yes but didn't show up to reimburse them for the meal. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Alicia v., on January 27, 2017 at 9:56 PM
  • Amanda
    VIP May 2017
    Amanda ·
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    They asked for money back from guests??? No ..I'd tell them to fuck off

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  • herecometheclarks
    VIP June 2018
    herecometheclarks ·
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    My thoughts? They sound incredibly rude and wrong and I absolutely would not reimburse them. If they can't wrap their heads around the circumstances that is their own ignorant fault

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  • Taina
    Dedicated October 2017
    Taina ·
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    Yeah. I mean, a few guests who didn't show had emergencies, so they didn't ask them for reimbursement, but casual no-shows were asked for payment for the meal.

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  • CastleSabrina
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    They asked people to pay for RSVP'ING and now showing up? I would be mad but I couldn't imagine asking people to pay me back. I wouldn't.

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  • AprilR
    VIP May 2018
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    That's super rude of them to ask their guests to reimburse them for a meal

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  • herecometheclarks
    VIP June 2018
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    I don't think I could ever consider someone so rude a friend. They haven't asked you yet so I just wouldn't worry about it. And if they do, tell them no

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  • AyEmVee
    VIP May 2017
    AyEmVee ·
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    Don't reimburse. These things happen. What if you were the one who was sick and you had to cancel/postpone? They wouldn't dare ask for money (or at least they shouldn't. Obviously these aren't normal people since they ask for meal reimbursements from their GUESTS! Wtf?!).

    Just politely apologize for the change of plans and let them know they'll be missed. Maybe try and get together with for dinner a few weeks after your honeymoon (and if you can afford it, pay for their meals).

    I'm so sorry you guys are going through this. I wish you the best.

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  • Nicole
    VIP November 2017
    Nicole ·
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    First, that was extremely rude of them to ask people to reimburse them!

    Second- reimbursing them for their hotel is a tricky situation. You did change the plans on them. But, I'm assuming that they would have received a refund if they had booked through your room block? So it was their choice to get the non-refundable room. I would see if there's a way they can work with the hotel to get a credit towards a stay at a later date. If it's a large chain hotel maybe they can transfer it to another location they are planning to visit?

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  • Celia Milton
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    That falls into the category of 'you might think it but you'd never do it."

    Best wishes for your mom's health.

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  • APD
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    What the fuck is wrong with people? That's so rude.

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  • Alicia v.
    Super March 2017
    Alicia v. ·
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    Not your fault they didn't use a wedding block. And they sound rude

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