Tory
Devoted May 2022

Rehearsal dinner

Tory, on February 1, 2021 at 5:50 PM

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Hey everyone, so I’ve been receiving a lot of conflicting opinions on this topic and wanted opinions from those who are specifically planning their weddings and what they plan on doing/what they’ve done in the past. Should +1’s of the bridal parties be invited to the rehearsal dinner? Part of me...
Hey everyone, so I’ve been receiving a lot of conflicting opinions on this topic and wanted opinions from those who are specifically planning their weddings and what they plan on doing/what they’ve done in the past. Should +1’s of the bridal parties be invited to the rehearsal dinner? Part of me wants them to come because it would be respectful to invite the people closest to our close friends, especially since we are planning on doing a destination wedding but the other part of me wants it to be more intimate between just our closest friends and family members, and a lot of our bridal/grooms party +1’s are fairly new relationships that we don’t know too well. My other concern is that a lot of the +1’s are extremely introverted, and I feel that they may be uncomfortable being around all of our family members they don’t know/would enjoy spending alone time at the hotel instead. Should I extend the invite to everyone anyway and they can decide whether or not to come, or should I limit it to just the bridal parties and family? Thank you guys!

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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
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    I’m so sorry to hear that! That’s really unfortunate that he didn’t take it well and lashed out at you guys for it. They could’ve handled it more responsibly considering it’s your day and it should be whatever will relieve stress and drama for you guys
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  • Kristen
    Devoted October 2021
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    Thank you. It's not the first time his dad has been difficult about one thing or another, both with wedding and non-wedding topics alike. He honestly wonders why he only has one child that speaks to him on a regular basis. *smh*

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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
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    It’s always really hard when family members are the ones that cause the most issues with your wedding. Hopefully he’ll eventually learn from it and stop being so difficult to you and his other children
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  • Chelsea
    Expert June 2021
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    We invited those who are engaged/living together/married. I have a couple of bridesmaids who have been seeing someone for only a couple months, and they were perfectly okay with not bringing them. As you mention, it can be awkward. You could always extend the offer but let them know that it's okay if they aren't comfortable attending. I've been in rehearsal dinners where only members of the processional (wedding party, flower girls, parents, and officiant) were present. I've also been to one where they invited all of the out-of-town guests as well.

    I wouldn't overthink it!

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