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Erinn
Dedicated January 2020

Rehearsal Dinner

Erinn, on July 17, 2019 at 1:38 PM

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Rehearsal dinner or no? I'm debating on not having a rehearsal dinner, my FH and I are already paying for most of the wedding ourselves (which its our wedding I don't expect anyone to pay for anything). Is it wrong to not host one ? No one has offered and my mom is already hosting the wedding shower...
Rehearsal dinner or no? I'm debating on not having a rehearsal dinner, my FH and I are already paying for most of the wedding ourselves (which its our wedding I don't expect anyone to pay for anything). Is it wrong to not host one ? No one has offered and my mom is already hosting the wedding shower ( again no one is obligated to host it for us) i'm not upset, trust me lol, just wondering if any of you have opted out of rehearsal dinner and if so do you regret doing so ?

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  • Christina
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    Good idea! Thank you
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2020
    Sara ·
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    I really don't want a rehearsal or rehersal dinner. If we do have something I plan on having everyone over our house for some beer and wine and pizza from our favorite local pizza place. We have a pretty big house and a big backyard so I don't think having like 20 people over would be a big deal.

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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
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    Yea, that's definitely an option. It doesn't have to be held anywhere specific. Even at your house and ordering pizza. It's more of a hang out and a thank you so no one should be expecting anything fancy. On top of finances, we just really don't have anywhere to hold it and most of our people are out of towners so why bother? lol

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  • Lisa
    Dedicated September 2019
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    We are just doing pizza at my BIL's house so I don't have to clean after lol.

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  • M
    Savvy April 2021
    Megan ·
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    That's a great idea! I was wondering the same. Unfortunately for us, the onsite inn that me, bridesmaids, FH, & groomsmen will be at isn't the same hotel we will have a block at. We could try to get everyone there because our parents will be at the hotel, but it might take some additional coordinating. We need a ceremony rehearsal, but weren't intent on a rehearsal dinner unless parents offered to host (not an expectation, just an old tradition).

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    If you do a rehearsal, you need to have a rehearsal dinner. If you don't want to host the dinner, don't have a rehearsal.

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  • Mary
    Devoted November 2019
    Mary ·
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    We are doing a pot luck in the church hall. It’ll be free for us so we are doing it!
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  • Erinn
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    Erinn ·
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    That's a great idea too! Thank you!

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  • K
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Karen ·
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    We aren’t doing a formal rehearsal dinner. To help costs we are staying in an AirBnB and ordering BBQ and hosting a welcome dinner. SUPER low key, and way more cost effective, compared to at a restaurant setting
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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
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    We used our church hall for our rehearsal dinner. We ordered a couple of pizzas and had some sodas.

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  • A
    Dedicated November 2021
    Amber ·
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    Our venue won't let us have our rehearsal the night before unless we shell out more than $1,000 so we rented a nearby meeting room that will fit our party and our parents so that we can do our rehearsal. We needed enough space to do our rehearsal and fortunately, this place will also let us cater in so our rehearsal dinner will be there as well and we've been thinking sandwich and fruit platters or giant subs or pizzas.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    I didnt want a rehearsal, just seemed not needed but FH parents pushed for it. So we are doing rehearsal at our venue then going out to breakfast afterwards and FH parents are paying for it but its strictly for wedding party. We plan on hosting a lunch for everyone later that day ( we have a lot of out of town guests)
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I did one even though I know what you mean by paying for your own wedding - the idea of paying for another dinner for a lot of people just adds up. But you can do something small like pizza or not even a dinner like even just drinks after or something would be nice
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    My bff opted out and it required a LOT of instructions the say of to know what we were doing. If you're prepared to get up earlier and walk through the process with the wedding party the day of then you can skip the rehearsal. If you'll be nervous without practice then do a beer and pizza party.
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  • Carrie
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    We are not doing a rehearsal dinner. We don’t have a wedding party but I will be going to get my nails and toes done with my sister and further sisters in laws for the wedding
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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    We live 90 minutes from the venue, and have OOT guests staying another 30 minutes away. So beer & pizza at our apartment is out. We need to find a restaurant that can hold about 15 people at 3:30/4pm on a Friday.
    I wish we could skip it but it looks like we can’t.
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