Rehearsal dinner - invite bridal party significant others?

Anyone who calls someone who types out such beautifully thought out, eloquent comments like CP as rude and condescending is infuriating. She asked you valid questions, but eh, who gives a f*ck, right? She addressed all your issues, you know.

If they're not even your friends, you shouldn't be worried about ending your friendship by removing the bridal party.

That's true, you shouldn't de-bridesmaid anyone. But you can appreciate that they agreed to support you on your wedding day and show them all respect.

I agree with @Centerpiece. If someone complains that your one single BM got a plus one, you can say it was because she is a BM. That's a fair and respectable line to draw when it comes to plus ones.

Usually you invite the SOs to the dinner but not the rehearsal. You don't want a lot of people at the rehearsal being a distraction but the dinner afterwards is a way to regroup & say thank you. If someone is important enough to you to be in your bridal party, you should extend an invite to their SO... its hard being an SO of someone in a bridal party, especially if you don't know a lot of guests at the wedding!

I think i would change my venue to be able to accommodate those people if it was a money issue.

Rude? I'm not being rude. I'm being absolutely truthful. Maybe I could have gone a little further and said you were being a bad friend. I didn't. I said you had a lot of excuses for your etiquette fail (that's a euphemism for being rude). Sorry, you don't want to hear it, but you're no different than any other bride who posts a bad idea.

It's ok for the hijacking. I like seeing the different point of views

Yes, i do believe it is appropriate to invite SO's especially if they are from out of town. Everyone is traveling for my wedding so we are having rehearsal with the party and then inviting their SO's and other close family that have traveled to the rehearsal dinner as an additional thank you. Nothing super fancy probably more of a cookout but still gives people a chance to come together.

Wow, Samantha. Just fucking wow.

You make no sense then you try to denigrate C'piece's well thought out and worded comments?

Sheesh.

Yes - A little over a year ago, my fiance was a best man in a wedding.

They addressed the invite to only my FH (essentially not inviting me). I almost didn't go. Their rehearsal, dinner, and drinking lasted until past midnight the weekend before the wedding. I was not invited and at the time we were working opposite schedules so I barely saw my SO anyway. I was also the only SO they didn't include. They had a head table for just the bridal party and I ended up sitting by myself for most of the night because the 'best man' needed to be by the groom's side the entire night.

Needless to say, that groom is not FH's best man. We've picked elsewhere

Short story - yes, include them. Your bridal party and any SOs have the right to feel included.

You made Tina say the F word?

Youz in troubbleeeee

Wow Steph, that's awful. Why do people feel like it's ok to alienate their guests and treat them like crap? I would have been sneaking my gift off the gift table and back into the car if I were you.

I was once asked if I "wanted" to go to my FH's best friends RD. And when my fiancé told his bff "of course she's coming, she's my fiancée" he responded with "SO's aren't always invited to the RD".........SOOOOO It definitely wasn't a true invite because I was the only SO at the dinner and felt super awkward and unwelcomed......so if you're going to invite SO's make sure you genuinely want them there and have the invitation extended to all!

Lauren B...my thoughts exactly, lol.

I wasn't in charge of the gift. I told him that if he wanted to give a gift after being required to rent a full $170 tux for a 100 degree day at the end of August, then the dollar value was up to him.

I could have bought him two full suits for that tux price. And they didn't wear them for more than the 15 minute ceremony. The groom changed before dinner :/