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tracee563
Dedicated September 2016

Rehearsal Dinner --- Casual vs Formal??

tracee563, on May 18, 2016 at 11:30 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

FH and I are torn with what we want to do for our rehearsal dinner. It would be for about 30 people and we have narrowed it down to two completely different ideas. We have pros and cons to each option but are having a hard time deciding. $$ doesn't play a factor because they would both cost about the same.

1) Casual - Have a catered meal at our home.

2 Formal - Dinner at a gated community country club

What is the appropriate etiquette for a rehearsal dinner?

24 Comments

Latest activity by Celia Milton, on May 18, 2016 at 3:27 PM
  • OGMary
    VIP October 2016
    OGMary ·
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    It's up to you! I would recommend the least stressful option, so if you're going to stress about cleaning your house for guests, then skip it.

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  • Ololufe
    VIP August 2016
    Ololufe ·
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    I like casual. It's a nice way to relax before the wedding.

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  • Heidi
    Expert September 2016
    Heidi ·
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    Not set in stone yet, but I think we will be going with a casual BBQ at our place.

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  • M
    VIP September 2016
    MrsInSeptember ·
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    I would vote for going out and being able to come home and be done. You don't want people to keep you up at the house or have to clean up after.

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  • FutureMrsBrbr
    Master September 2016
    FutureMrsBrbr ·
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    We were going to try to go the casual BBQ option but we are going to be at the hotel that night. The logistics of hiving everyone in one place at the hotel for a BBQ got too stressful so we are going to a local restaurant instead. No hassle and no cleanup.

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  • BeachBride2016
    Master November 2016
    BeachBride2016 ·
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    Do the least stressful option and what will be the most fun/comfortable for you and your guests. We'll likely going to a restaurant where we choose the menu ahead of time, then just show up and eat, drink and be merry! Smiley smile

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  • FUTURE.MRS.SMITH
    Devoted July 2016
    FUTURE.MRS.SMITH ·
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    We are going casual. FMIL is hosting it. A catered BBQ/Picnic style meal at the B&B we booked for some OOT guests. Least amount of stress on our part and will be able to relax a bit before the big day.

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  • Zaz
    Master October 2016
    Zaz ·
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    We're going to a restaurant (my favorite one!) immediately after the rehearsal. None of the parties involved wanted to worry about cleaning the house and having guests over right before the wedding. Especially with my family, since it usually takes half an hour just to say goodbye - there's no getting them out the door! lol

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  • E&M
    Master July 2016
    E&M ·
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    The only etiquette is that you feed the people attending the rehearsal. The formality is up to you. You can even order pizza and provide alcohol at home.

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  • Deb
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    Deb ·
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    I think both options sound great. I would decide on what will be less stressful for you and enable you to enjoy yourself.

    We opted for pizza and beer/wine at a restaurant near the hotel because I couldn't imagine trying to plan one more thing.

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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
    melanie ·
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    We are doing a casual BBQ

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  • Katie
    Master October 2016
    Katie ·
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    I like casual =) You could set up yard games, play adult charades, etc. We are having pizza, beer, and bowling for ours.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Definitely up to you! What are some of the pros and cons you were thinking through?

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  • Yasmina
    Master November 2015
    Yasmina ·
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    I personally would go with the "I don't have to clean up anyone's mess" option. ha ha.

    We went to a pizza joint, and had a super casual, super fun (and delicious) RD.

    Smiley laugh

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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2016
    Kathryn ·
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    We are doing a casual, catered BBQ/pig roast at FH's house on the lake. I wanted it to be a laid back, fun, relaxing night before the big day!!!

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  • BecomingMrsR
    Expert November 2016
    BecomingMrsR ·
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    Hopefully something casual, it's in the works now! But if I had my say, I'd want casual.

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  • FutureMrsStycuk
    Devoted September 2016
    FutureMrsStycuk ·
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    The hall we are getting married at is about 2 min drive from my house, so after the rehearsal we plan on having everyone back at the house and either doing a BBQ, or getting platters done by Costco. Low key and people can relax and enjoy.

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  • Mrs.Hawks
    Master October 2016
    Mrs.Hawks ·
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    We're going casual. We want to relax before the wedding.

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  • MrsBBR
    Super January 2017
    MrsBBR ·
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    We're doing casual! FILs have generously offered to take care of the RD in addition to helping with other things, so I'm happy to have it at a local restaurant. It all depends on who is hosting and what you/your guests will be comfortable with. I've been to formal and casual RDs and have enjoyed both equally.

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  • Lara
    Master July 2015
    Lara ·
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    I prefer casual. I've been to a wedding where the RD was more formal than the wedding...that was awkward.

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