Rehearsal dinner and wedding shower together

It could be fun im not a traditional bride im having a picnic for my wedding everyone brings a dish to pass

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I would find it incredibly rude for the couple to expect me to travel for their wedding, pay for my accommodations, pay for my attire, pay for my own meal at their rehearsal dinner, and bring a gift for their shower. Not only that, but also a wedding gift the very next day.

View Quoted Comment First of all, its easy to comment on details i never gave. We've paid for plenty and your comment is rude. 😊 👋🏼

View Quoted Comment Why ask for opinions if you don’t want them?

I think this could end in disaster it's hard to plan so much at once it seems like it's going to get really confusing really quick. Plus I dont really understand the point of a shower the day before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment That's what I'm thinking too. I only thought to do it so close to the wedding because most of the people i want there are out of town and i wanted to include them without having them travel twice. I thought it very rude to ask someone from there to throw me one. Who does that?

The only other encounter I’ve had with you was actually you responding to me on someone else’s post where I disagreed with them, but wasn’t rude. It had nothing to do with you.

You seem to think that these forums exist for you to find people to agree with you, that’s simply not the case. What you’re describing is rude. You asked for opinions and I provided mine. I was not rude in the slightest. You can’t tell people how or what they can say, according to the WW guidelines. Have a great evening and happy planning.

This sounds like a disaster on so many levels. A bridal shower and rehearsal dinner should both be events that are hosted- meaning guests don’t pay for their own food. On top of that, as a guest, if I was expected to bring a present to a shower and then gift at the wedding the next day, I’d decline the shower.

Not everyone agrees with others. I didn't specifically ask you for your opinion. The planning process is stressful enough and people come to the forums for positive honest response not what YOU think is appropriate. I just feel like you aren't considering that aspect. You make assumptions and insert your rude comment...as i see it. Others may be fine with how you state things. I just find it rude but we'll agree to disagree. Happy planning to you too!

I agree with Caytlyn and don’t think she’s being rude at all. She’s being honest that this is very rude and very odd. Just because you don’t like an opinion doesn’t mean it’s rude, she didn’t call names or insult you personally, she just offered feedback on your plan. Don’t post if you don’t want opinions.

I would not do this.
these are 2 separate events and shouldn’t be put together.
You also shouldn’t have an event (your shower) where gifts are expected but you also expect your guest to buy their own food (not talking about the rehersal I have a whole other set of thoughts about that). You( or the host) should treat your guest to something cake, finger foods, a meal etc.
My rehersal wasn’t the most stress free event and I wouldn’t want that on the day of my shower. There were so many house keeping type things I had to do the day before my wedding. If I had to throw a shower in the mix I don’t think I would have enjoyed it. I get not wanting your guest to travel more than once. Maybe just have a shower with local guests.

View Quoted Comment It doesnt matter if YOU think its rude or not. I feel its rude and its my post. You could've easily kept scrolling and now you've jumped into something that had nothing to do with you. Ive posted and commented with no offense taken. The whole point if a forum is for others thoughts and opinions. But now both of you can have a great day! Good day ladies!

If you cant afford a rehearsal dinner, dont have a rehearsal. They aren't mandatory.

I think you would need to let people know they are paying for own dinner. Also a bridal shower is typically a larger group then the rehearsal dinner. That tends to be just the people doing the rehearsal. I would try to keep it low key.onlt because I do not think I would be able to spend a lot with travel, hotel, gift and a expensive dinner.

View Quoted Comment Nicely put Cassidy. It wasnt that i expected 2 gifts but with us paying for everything ourselves and people asking about a shower i figured combining makes it easier. We'll probably nix the shower based in timing alone and not anyone's opinion. The rehearsal was orginally suppose to be held at my house with is plenty big enough. But bridal party suggested combining. But day before I think you're right

View Quoted Comment I agree with your comment. I’m trying to figure out what I’m going to do with my rehearsal dinner as some of my guest are traveling as well. I may not do one at all if it’s not affordable ... if I do, I may cook for them who knows but this is the part when I get stressed out thinking of things.

I haven’t even thought this far but I guess I better now

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Your passive aggressive remarks are outstanding. Each guest is different. Some can afford, some cannot. Some do not mind spending extra to attend a friend's wedding. In my case, if it is my friend who is getting married, we do not mind flying and attending a wedding. We would be grateful for the invitation and we will show our support. As long as our calendar is open, we will find a way. We did it once a couple of years ago. Our friend is from Seattle and we bought and paid for airline tickets plus hotel accommodation. We never expected anything in return. Now that we are getting married in FL, our friend book his own ticket to attend our wedding to think that his wife is pregnant. He took the time to purchase a ticket to attend our wedding.

View Quoted Comment Is your guest paying for their meal at a wedding event?