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Kelsey
Devoted September 2017

Rehearsal dinner-alcohol provided?

Kelsey, on April 7, 2017 at 9:01 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

Hello everyone! I want to start out by saying I AM providing alcohol for guests during the reception, in addition to a mimosa bar for my bridesmaids in the bridal suite (groomsmen have various types of whiskey, FH's favorite). I just wanted to put that out there before asking this question- are we expected to provide alcohol for the rehearsal dinner? We are having a very casual buffet style meal at a local restaurant; homemade pies and brownies for dessert. There is a bar I just didn't know if we should start/cover a tab? I'm happy to do so but didn't know the etiquette with rehearsal dinners and open bars. Thank you!

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Latest activity by MissGtoMrsG, on April 7, 2017 at 12:21 PM
  • APD
    VIP July 2017
    APD ·
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    We will be providing beer and wine only for out rehearsal dinner.

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  • MrsMitch
    Master August 2017
    MrsMitch ·
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    Yes, if you keep the rehearsal dinner fairly small and simple beer and wine shouldn't be too expensive.

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  • Alyssa
    Expert September 2017
    Alyssa ·
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    We are having a wine and beer. In past weddings I have been in the couple did one drink per person or the venue gave out drink tokens.

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  • Kelsey
    Devoted September 2017
    Kelsey ·
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    Okay thank you! I will talk with the restaurant and look at a beer and wine list to have some options

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    We are doing beer/wine on consumption

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  • CuteNickname
    Super July 2017
    CuteNickname ·
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    If you're hosting dinner, yes you should host alcohol as well. ETA: it would be fine to cover only the alcohol consumed with dinner. Beer and wine would be fine.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Yes, but wine and beer if fine.

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  • LC
    Expert June 2017
    LC ·
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    Yes definitely provide alcohol at the rehearsal dinner. Like others said, beer and wine is fine.

    I recently went to a wedding where the rehearsal dinner was a cash bar but the wedding was open bar. People were confused about what they had to pay for at the wedding.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    I think beer would be good, or sangria.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    You should host alcohol. You are inviting people to a dinner and you are responsible for covering the costs - it is literally no different from a wedding reception. Drink tickets and cash bars do NOT suddenly become ok just because this is a smaller, more casual, event than the wedding.

    However, you can control what you offer. You can offer a limited drink menu (most restaurants have no problem with that and can print menus with your selections) or just put out a few bottles of wine on the table.

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  • Kelsey
    Devoted September 2017
    Kelsey ·
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    Thank you everyone! I will provide a selection of beer and wine

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  • SarahE.
    Expert October 2017
    SarahE. ·
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    You could also look at buy the first two or three drinks for everyone and then if they want to continue drinking they can pay. Thankfully where I am having my rehearsal dinner they do tickets for the bar. It is like $7 per ticket but they can go up and get whatever they want from the bar. So we are doing 3 tickets per person (looking at about 40 people). After that if they want to drink they will be responsible. I figured that would help cover the dinner and then if people want to leave they can or if they want to continue to stay out they can. Just an option but I would at least do the first two drinks per person or so.

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  • Kim
    Super September 2017
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    Yes you should definitely provide alcohol for the rehearsal dinner. I think a cash bar is tacky, even at the rehearsal dinner. You're hosting dinner for guests, they should not have to pay anything. We're doing consumption bar for like an hour or two. We don't expect people to drink a lot the night before the wedding.

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  • M
    Expert July 2017
    MissGtoMrsG ·
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    We are doing wine and beer. Same for the wedding.

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