Rehearsal Day

I think that's fine.

If your family isn't involved in the rehearsal, why do they think they are invited that night?

Sure, it makes perfect sense to have everybody else meet you at the restaurant.

If anyone else asks about an invitation to the rehearsal dinner, just let them know directly that it's just for people who are in the wedding, but that you can't wait to see them on your wedding day.

@Soozie, understanding the invites. Part of the dilemma is that there are spouses/dates not involved with the wedding but welcome to attend rehearsal dinner. Just not the actual rehearsal. Just trying to find a way to say that without being rude

Just remember that sometimes SO's stay at the rehearsal venue because they are providing transportation for their loved one, to and from the dinner. If you don't want them to stay, you need to arrange transportation for your wedding party. That could be as simple as asking someone else to give them a ride.

These are your nearest and dearest. No need to be super formal and stilted.

"Hey Beth, we will need you at the church at 4:30. The rehearsal should take about an hour, so have your husband Joe meet us at XYZ Restaurant at 6."

Oh, yeah, if they only have one car, you don't have much choice.

Thank y'all!!!!

Sorry, but if people are in 1 car you're going to end up with significant others at the rehearsal. They can sit there and wait it's not fair to expect them to drop SO off, come back and pick them up, and then both go to the rehearsal.

Is there a reason you don't want them in the church? At mine the SO just sat their quietly

I don't think having extra people at the church would be a problem.... They can just sit there.

There is no issue with extra people being at the church, but it is a full Catholic rehearsal, so not the typical, in and out in 15-20 minutes rehearsal. I just feel bad for having people sit there that have nothing to do with the wedding other than showing up and being a guest of the bridal party.

Britten, we had a full Catholic mass and our priest got through the rehearsal in under 20 minutes (and we only had one because Joe really wanted one). Readers were not required to make the long drive on a Friday night but were welcome.

SOs usually hang out in a back pew and talk, it's no big deal.

Adults know how to sit for 15-20 minutes. They do it at doctors offices all the time.

I totally understand family thinking they're invited when they're not. My FHs family sometimes think everyone needs to come to everything. LOL

@Nonna, thank you for that! Our Wedding Director told us to plan for 45-an hour because we are all coming from out of town so she wants to make sure that everything is on par. Maybe I can convince her to cut that down a little bit.