Regrets Only for RSVP?

I'm confused, what do you mean?

I would be worried about a lot of no shows. People inevitably forget to RSVP, so you might think they are coming when they really just forgot to decline.

I have seen regrets only for other occasions not for a wedding. I think that for something like a wedding a formal RSVP yes or no is more appropriate.

Yeah I've seen this more for more casual gatherings--sometimes a shower, but usually something super informal like a BBQ. I would be way too nervous to count on a regrets-only RSVP.

No. They are going to make you insane anyway; don't make it easier to make you insane.

I would do RSVP especially for a wedding so you have a better idea of how many people for food, tables, chairs, etc.

Bad idea. Especially for a large wedding.

Why would you do that?

Lol I'm not doing it! I just saw it in on an invitation and was wondering how that would work

I'm really confused...

So they only send back the RSVP if they are NOT coming? No... absolutely not. Send it back either way.

I've seen this for baby/bridal showers and bachelorette parties, but not for weddings. I wouldn't do it....sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

Please don't. I have had people ask about the

Accepts with excitement______

Number Attending____

Declines with regrets_______

How is this confusing?

"Lol I'm not doing it! I just saw it in on an invitation and was wondering how that would work"

yeah, my thoughts exactly- I have no idea how it would work!

That's just setting yourself up for stress. If there is one thing I have learned is if you make things easier for people they will put no effort, if you make it somewhat difficult like put a deadline and give them instructions they will be annoyed, but will know that you are on top of them so they will have no choice but to do it.

I would never be able to do it

DONT DO IT!

Can someone explain???

It's hard enough to get people to RSVP, then, the ones that say yes, may or may not show up. We had a mere three no-shows, which we knew about after the final head count, but before the wedding. We had one surprise guest at the wedding, so we were only out about $200, which in the scheme of things, wasn't really all that much. We had people who didn't RSVP, who came, and people who didn't. In the end, I would request that everyone RSVP to minimize your chances of surprise guests/no-shows.

That's one of my biggest stress points, and my wedding is 9 months away. RSVP cards are going to go to my parents, and I have visions of my mother calling people who haven't sent in cards and trying to figure out whether they are coming or not, as well as my FH and I calling/texting our procrastinating friends about sending in their RSVP cards. I don't get the "regrets only" RSVP card.