Registry on invites: Is it tacky?

You never include information about registries on your invitation, regardless of the formality of the event. You can include your wedding website, which would, in turn, have that information. Otherwise, people will ask or give cash.

Yep, exactly what Becky said

View Quoted Comment Ooooof, I had no idea. Thank you for telling me. 😂 How’s this instead?


The wording is the way it is because we our inviting our guests only to the reception. We are eloping early that day. 💕

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This is absolutely fine. It gives the website, which will provide more information than *just* the registry, but allows guests to look at the registry information, should they wish.

As for inviting people to just the reception - as long as you are truly eloping (or are having like a parents only situation, or a religious thing (LDS has this as a thing)) then you're good

Definitely better to ask - you don't want your guests to think you're rude (and no one says anything to the bride/groom - they just talk lol).

View Quoted Comment Yes. We are sharing our vows privately in a local garden with our photographer and then doing all the official business with our parents at the courthouse. 🥰

Exactly what the others said. Have the code to direct guests to your wedding website, and you can have your registry there on your wedding website. No mention of the registry should be on the invitation

View Quoted Comment I’d definitely say remove it. It takes away from the formality of the invitation. I’d recommend only including it on your wedding website.

Is there any way to put the code on the back?

It is considered a faux pas to include the registry info. Guests know to contact either you and fiancé or your parents or wedding party to find out where you are registered and the information is given via word of mouth.

Your invitations are gorgeous, but I think that code kind of interferes with the look. Is there any way you could include a separate card with the link to your website.

Registry information or any reference to gifts (including things like "cash only") are never meant to go anywhere in the invitation suite.

I agree with a couple others. I think having the code on the front of the invitation takes away from the formality of the invitation and makes it look almost tacky. Could you add it to the back of the card? Or include a separate card?

View Quoted Comment Update! I changed my design entirely. 😅 The code is linked to my wedding website and it’s on the back. Thank you all for your recommendations. 🥰

Giiirl, I was going to use the same invite template from Zazzle that you're using!

I guess I'm the only one that thought your idea of adding the honeymoon fund ON the invitation via QR code was smart! But I understand everyone's opinions on it being "tacky". I would honestly just keep the QR code for the honeymoon fund, but put it on the back of the "details" card. We did that and it was a hit!

View Quoted Comment Will your guests know to look at the back? That is uncommon to do so and they may be looking for a details cards. Hopefully your family can spread the word if other guests are confused on the rsvp contact information.

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That looks great!

"Never include registry info" is outdated and SILLY advice. How the heck will your guests be able to find your registry if you don't tell them where it is? Why do Target, Macy's, and Bed Bath and Beyond and every other store on the planet give you a big fat stack of registry card enclosures to include with your invites if it's rude? If you google it, you will find that half the etiquette sites say it's rude, and the other half say it's efficient and helpful for guests...which you can tell is what I believe lol. If someone is angry that you helped them to know where your registry is, they don't need to be at your wedding (and they prob need a better therapist than the one they currently have). I can't imagine being so self centered that I would get angry over being provided with registry info which doesn't force me to buy a dang thing, while still expecting to go get free food and entertainment and alcohol all night long. Give me a break. That being said, make it a small card enclosure at the back of the envelope, as putting it right on the front of the invite ruins the look.

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This, absolutely!

View Quoted Comment It is acceptable to put those registry cards in the shower invites but not for the wedding itself. The reason is that it makes you look like you care about gifts more than guests attending.

View Quoted Comment Again, this is an outdated notion. Google it yourself and you will see wedding etiquette experts have differing opinions. If someone really believes you care more about gifts just because you provided info on your registry…for a wedding…where people bring gifts…they need therapy and clearly don’t know you at all and probably don’t deserve to be there. Not everyone is invited to/comes to the shower, and it’s silly to *only* let shower attendees know where you are registered. There’s no “right” answer here because even experts don’t agree on it. Do what makes you happy, and screw any crazy snowflakes who can’t handle being given helpful information without twisting it into an insult.

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You're literally here, on an etiquette board. The answer to the question is that you don't refer to gifts at all on the invitation. That may be your opinion but it's not the correct etiquette.