Registry- mother involvement

I think the mother being involved is a very old tradition. I guess back when mom's were teaching their daughters how to be good wives and decorate/keep a home it may have been more common. I would never pick out home decor without H. It's his home too.

Sorry just saw she got married in 1988. Lol! I don't consider that a long time ago. Maybe her family is just old fashioned??

I wouldn't include my mom in making our registry. They are items to be used with your SO not with your mama.

But it's things that you and FH will be using together, not you and your mom...

I did most of mine without FH because he just didn't care, but it's things you think you could both use as a couple. I never really asked my mom for any advice or anything on it.

My FH was interested in the registry. My mother doesn't really care (except for telling me what is too expensive and what stores are "tacky") so FH went with me and we did everything together.

I think this depends on the groom, but I believe his opinion matters way before your mom's does.

I made our registry for my fiance and I. We're building a house and the only thing he cares about or has opinions on is the structural stuff and building materials (since he's the one building). For our registry, I put the items of the two rooms I have "designed" already on there (as well as things like electrical outlets and thermostats) and my fiance couldn't care less what they were haha. He said it's up to me to design the interior of our house anyway :')

I asked him multiple times to tell me what things he wanted, but again, he gives zero fucks about it. So I basically did the registry myself lol.

Why would your mom go? Shouldn't FH have a say in what towels, sheets, silverware, etc goes into your home? It's nothing to do with your mom.

You and your FH did the right thing it is going to be your new home maybe in your Mom's day they did it differently

My mom asked me where I registered the other day. She assumed I already had because it's normally bride and groom who pick out that kind of thing. She didn't expect to be involved at all.

FH and I went to one of the stores we're registered at together and then invited my mom to come with us to the other store to register. But only because she gives good advice and we trust her opinion. FH and I still made all of the final decisions because it's our house and we're the ones who are going to use everything.