Registry- mother involvement

Yeah, I'm pretty sure it's normal for the bride and groom to do this together.

She did get married in 1988! Maybe it was different then?

It seems weird to not include the groom, he's the one who's gonna use the stuff, not your mom!

My mom helped us pick some items, but she works for BB&B as a bridal consultant. We wouldn't have asked otherwise, but she did help give advice about whether knife block X or Y was better, since she knows the products well, and has a better idea of our needs and lifestyle than a random consultant.

My mom does occasionally mention brides coming in with their moms, and not their FS, so it's not unheard of.

I used to be a bridal consultant for BBB. bride and groom or bride and a member of the bridal party were the norm. rarely we'd get a bride and mom. she's wrong for expecting you to know she wanted to be involved with that.

also most of my brides that would come in with their mom would call for an appointment by themselves and we'd literally rebuild their registry the second time.

While it's sweet that she and her mom had that bonding moment and I'm sure that's what she wanted with you, your mom isn't the one using the things on the registry. It should definitely be you and your FH. My sister offered to do it for me (half jokingly, she mostly just wanted to use the gun) but I politely declined because this was an experience my FH and I should partake in together

Pretty sure you're building a home with FH, not your mom... so... yea...

Couple chooses together. These moms need to get a grip on themselves. I appreciate that they're interested, but seriously!

I didn't include my mother at all, and she didn't seem to care. I would maybe say you didn't realize she wanted to be involved, but it was important to include you FH in the process.

Surprise ma, it's 2017 now

I didn't do mine with FH either because he had zero interestbut it would have been my preference to do it with him. I definitely would not have taken my mom though.

My mom thought the same thing. I live 200 miles from my mom and FH and I chose to register at BBB and Macys. The BBB better where FH and I live so we did that one together but Macys is better where my mom lives. FH ended up coming with my mom and I to Macys to register. My mom always has to be right. If she likes mustard on a sandwich she insists you eat it that way too and if you politely decline she storms off, and I dont like mustard. We didnt ignore her while registering but we definitely controlled it. I often find myself asking my mom about what kinds of things she uses. We registered for dishes at BBB and I didnt think I wanted the platter, the woman helping us suggested to ask my mom. Since I was raised by my mom I will probably host holidays and get togethers like my mom, which I agree with. I asked my mom and she said I will want the platter for holiday meals and since my mom doesn't host holidays as much I didn't realize that she does have one. I went back and registered for it.

My FH and I went one day, and then my mom and I went back another day to add more stuff because FH either lost patience or was enjoying using the gun a bit too much.

I think it's weird that you wouldn't go with your FH, if he wanted to. It's his stuff too?

Husband and I made ours together. No one else was involved. No one else mentioned wanting to be involved, though some people had suggestions.

DH and I went together. I don't know why she would think it's her place instead of his.

I did my registry with my mom because FH didn't want to go. I didn't mind taking her because she only gives her opinion when you ask for it.

My mom doesn't live with us and has completely different tastes than we do so no she doesn't get a say.

I have never heard of this.

I have done our registry 90% myself (unless you count that I've been keeping a list of every time FH mentions that we need something for months now), because we are registering on Amazon so I work on it on my phone when I have some free time. FH is more than welcome to participate but isn't that interested usually.

It never would have occurred to me to ask my mom.

I've only heard of this in one instance. It was a very formal old fashioned home & gift shop. Where typically either just the bride or the bride with her mother, grandmother, FMIL, went and picked out a China, Crystal, and/or silver pattern. Grooms could come but it was seen as a girl thing.

In general though I've always heard of it as the bride and groom or occasionally just one or the other if long distance.

So yeah, I wouldn't have thought to ask Mom.

I haven't heard of this, but if it was something your mother wanted she should have talked to you about it previously. She shouldn't make you feel bad about it when it's not a normal tradition. My FH and I made our registry together but we did show our parents and I did ask my mom for input. I think picking items for your registry should be special between you and your FH.

Yeah, I think this is something the couple should do together since they are picking out items they want for their future home.

Although, my FMIL said she wanted to go registry shopping with us..... hard pass.