Registering without being greedy/tacky.

As pp have stated, people will definitely ask you where you are registered. If you aren't registered anywhere, they will get the hint. My FH is always ready to just hand out cash to people for occasions as will a lot of your guest. I'm all for a kitchen aid right now. So if someone buys it or if people just give us cash, I'll end up with one.

Same comments as other posters--think outside the typical registry and register for upgrades of thins you already have. Do you own a house? Check out Home Depot or Lowe's or a similar store for small home and garden tools or grills.

Register for things for your home. This is a chance to ditch the hand me downs, the just getting started stuff, etc. register for fine china, crystal, fine stainless flatware (or silver but no one will buy it for you since it's ridiculously expensive), nice sheets, new bedding, pillows, some fun baking/cooking supplies, a new pot and pan set, nice picture frames, etc. Register for what you want but it's really in poor taste not to register. If I get you something and you return it and I find out, I'm going to be incredibly offended.

If you've gone through the threads and know its tacky, you should also know that common advice is to have a minimal registry and most adults will get the point

My friend put a cute poem in her invitations that basically said that they have everything for their home but if you would like to get them anything money is best. They did it in a cute way and I did not feel like it was any different than putting where you're registered and not tacky!

Nope, not that. That is never cute.

Poems asking for money are never proper etiquette.

There's absolutely no reason to do a registry unless you want the stuff on it. Definitely don't register for things you don't want or need (things that won't bring you joy). It's not bad etiquette to NOT have a registry. You don't even need to do a "small registry" if you don't want anything. Just don't do a registry and you'll get 95% money. The only thing that IS bad etiquette for this would be using a honeyfund or housefund.

Do Zola -- register for some upgrades and if you get stuff you don't want you can always turn it into cash. You can create group gifts for a Roomba or new bedding.

We are actually doing a wine registry, putting bottles ranging from $20-$100 on there, we really couldn't think of anything else

I feel like people are always so worried about this. I have NEVER given an actual gift at a wedding. Every wedding I've been to had a shower for the registry and we always give cash for a wedding. I don't think I've ever seen or heard of anyone I know bringing towels to a wedding as a gift. Just don't register for a lot and people get the hint.

You can always use upgrades, promise.

I recommend getting on target or Kohl's online and looking at their top registry items. There will be things you never even thought of!

Registry information doesn't not go in your wedding invitations. If someone is throwing you a bridal shower, then the registry information can be included with that invitation

We've also been living together a while and live in a tiny apartment, with no space for extra stuff. We registered for 7 or 8 items only (like a new knife set, a bread box). Most of our friends and family are traveling from other cities and have to stay overnight, so we're just grateful to have them there.