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Devoted May 2016

Reconsidering marriage

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Jeaneen, on April 22, 2016 at 7:45 PM

My and Fiance have been getting into arguments over dumb stuff lately. We just dont seem to be on the same page. Maybe its the stress of the wedding or maybe its old issues that we havent worked through rearing their ugly heads. Either way, I've been considering cancelling everything. I might loss money, but i dont have to deal with the BS for the rest of my life. He might feel the same way, but today i told him to let me know if he didnt want to marry me. He never responded. I know nobody is perfect, but i think its important we STRIVE for perfection. **Just wanted to share my thoughts**

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The Trap Selena · on April 22, 2016 at 9:48 PM
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You're going to bicker during this stressful time but if the fights are making you feel like you're about to make a mistake, then seek some counseling. But I have to say that what's really getting me is the fact that you're striving for perfection. The questions I'm about to ask are completely rhetorical but seriously think about them. What definition of perfect are you striving towards? What/who are you using as a guide for what perfection is? I swear to you I was at a point in my life where I was literally making myself sick trying to live up to others' idea of perfection and as soon as I realized that no such thing exists, I was much happier. Don't compare yourself and your relationship with your FH to someone else because (as cliche and cheesy as it may sound) you're different from everyone else and have something unique to offer. And think about this too...every relationship has its bumps in the road. Just because someone appears to have everything together doesn't mean shit. People put up fronts all the time to make it seem like they're good but that's all it is...a FRONT. It's natural to argue but those arguments have to reach some kind of resolution...and a pro might be the best person who can help y'all work out your communication/other issues. I don't want you to feel like I'm being harsh and I apologize if it comes across that way but I just don't want you driving yourself crazy like I did trying to reach perfection when it's just not possible.
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