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Gabriela, on February 3, 2020 at 4:08 PM

Hello all! question please!!! My wedding has about 150 guests. The ceremony and reception are in the same venue but in different rooms. The ceremony room has a maximum of 95 guests . Any opinions on how to make this work? I am not originally from the US so I want any family that will be travelling to the wedding in both ceremony and reception. My fiance has a very large family, so I was thinking inviting his aunts and uncles to the ceremony and reception, and cousins and cousins kids (over 15) to the reception only. Not sure what to do with friends...would it be rude to invite some friends to the reception only? I wish I didn't need to exclude anyone, but since the max counts are different, what is recommended? Thanks!

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Gabriela · on February 4, 2020 at 10:36 AM
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Thank you Alyssa for your comment.
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Gabriela · on February 4, 2020 at 10:37 AM
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Thank you!
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Gabriela · on February 4, 2020 at 10:39 AM
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Thank you. yeah immediate family is 40 people, so if we do split it would be like that. It would be immediate family only after researching the issue... Appreciate your comment.
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Gabriela · on February 4, 2020 at 10:40 AM
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Thank you Kari
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Just Said Yes April 2020
Andreka · on February 4, 2020 at 11:35 AM
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Hi Gabriela. Unfortunately people are not so considerate of people feelings these days. I am sorry some were a bit harsh.

I am currently going through the same issue 100 people and the venue can only fit 80. However my plan is to either change the venue that I love, or contact the 20 people in person and let them know that due to budgeting or maximum capacity its their choice to come but you would love for them to be there. There are still some family and friend that are understandable, so i suggest choosing people that you think is understandable and explain the situation in person.

WHAT I DID:
person who are not married- I explained told them no plus one
my neighbors- I explained told them 1 per household for the reception
create a list for the reception, whoever is not on the list is just not on the list. sometimes we have to be tough, at the end if the day its your pocket.

Do have a bless wedding Hun.
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Just Said Yes September 2020
MSC · on February 4, 2020 at 12:36 PM
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Hi, Congrats on your engagement. I have seen it done SEVERAL times and there is NOTHING wrong with it. Invite immediate family only to the ceremony, this means they get different invites and those invited only to the reception would get that invite. Dont stress over it. All will go well and it will end up being amazing. Best of luck to you and your fiance!
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Cassidy · on February 4, 2020 at 1:00 PM
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But you ARE telling the people who didn’t make the cut they are less important. The ceremony is why you are getting together in the first place. Please don’t do this in your wedding unless you want to damage relationships.

You asked if this is rude, and it is. The action is rude, not you personally. Don’t take it so personally. There are people who will think it’s rude even if you do everything right because there are things that just weren’t important to some of us.
None of us are attending your wedding. You don’t have to please us. If you’re going to do something unconventional, I’d consider speaking to your guests and bridal party to see if they are bothered by your decision. Some people care about dumb things and to some they aren’t dumb at all. So- just confer with your circle and make the decisions that are right for you- you don’t need everyone’s approval to do what you need to.
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