Reception Food

Are they paying for the food and cake?

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We are paying for everything ourselves. His mom is gifting us money for us to use it however we want because she did that for his older brother but we are paying for every aspect of the wedding. My fiance and I kinda split items and did a "who pays for what" list. He is paying the caterer and he is buying our cheesecake bites from Sams Club

I wouldn't worry about it. Honestly most kids like at least some part of the taco even if it's just the meat or the sides. If they don't parents can feed them before hand too.

I’ve never fed my child before going to an event where food would be and she eats after 6pm regularly because of her dance and sports schedules. She’s 7 for reference but we’ve been eating late at least one night a week since she was 4.

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Then you shouldn't take into account on what they want. If they were paying for the full catering then maybe they get a say. But here they don't. Should be what you want I'd say even mac n cheese for the kiddos if you can make that a possibility.

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That was my thought as well!!! we are doing ground beef and shredded chicken. And you will be able to put your own toppings on them. His dad make such a big deal and was like "if I brought my kid and it was hungry and you didn't have anything to feed it, I would leave". And then made nasty comments about my sister and caterer

We offered a kids meal, it was just easier to do & pretty cheap since it was chicken tenders/macaroni/etc. I think it depends on your group, but I know a lot of people who don't like cheesecake so I think an alternative like cookies, brownies, cupcakes, cake, etc. would be good too.

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That was what I was thinking. It seemed my caterer just didn't really think it was necessary and to be honest my fiance doesn't either but I thought it wouldn't hurt. My caterer said that since my fiance doesnt like cake, he goes to weddings and chooses to not eat the cake and he doesn't get upset that they didn't have something for dessert that he liked

I thought about waiting until we get RSVPs back from people and asking the ones who say they are bringing their kids if they would eat tacos or not and depending on how many people say no go from there

My wedding was this past Saturday and we had a taco bar as well and those of our guest with picky eaters fed them a snack before the wedding. We also had a cheesecake tower of 100 cheesecake cupcakes with various toppings as well as our wedding cake and both were a big hit with our crowd.

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Then they can leave. I'm probably somewhat rude for saying this but my cousin's kids are like the worst when it comes to being picky eaters. I think on vacation one time all I saw her daughter eat was Nutella sandwiches. I know they aren't going to eat my reception; we talked to the other parents with kids coming and most of them are like "oh yeah there is at least something on the menu for our kids to eat." So we decided to not offer a kids meal. Most kids do like tacos in my opinion and it's awesome that you are giving them the option of both chicken and beef.

Your dessert choice is your own, but you do absolutely need to provide meals for everyone attending— no assuming they’d just eat before (same is true of vegetarian options and other dietary restrictions).


When it comes to wedding planning, turns out *everyone* has an opinion. To me, it’s important to take a minute and hear people out in case they have a legitimate concern, and then decide for yourself what’s best for you and your day and your guests— keeping things as is or adjusting. (This is also why I kept quiet on a lot of personalChoices [1st dance song, skipping speeches etc] so that no one would try to talk me out of it when my mind is set!) but it’s important to realize there are some choices that don’t really affect anyone and some that do (it’s important to feed all your guests . I’d even argue it’s important to serve dessert. But it’s not important to serve 5 different desserts just in case someone doesn’t love options a, b or c.) . The couple kids at my wedding definitely ate meals, for what it’s worth!
Funny story— we chose not to do cake. Just saw it as an unnecessary expense for something neither of us actually even like all that much. (we did however pick out a fabulous alternative dessert that was a huge hit). My grandmother is the type to have a strong opinion about EVERYTHING. Consequently, I didn’t tell her ANYTHING about our planning decisions along the way as I didn’t want to hear about it. However she happened to be at the house when I had a caterer meeting and overheard us talking about no cake and she piped up like “NO CAKE?! You can’t have a wedding with no cake!!!” And ranted a little. Anyway 10 minutes later she’s all “well....wedding cake is terrible and dry and no one eats it anyway and it’s always a terrible waste” 🤣🤣

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I'm sure people wouldn't be visibly upset, but for us personally we wanted all our guests to have a great experience so we had options.

I would say if they are paying for the food you may want to include the chicken tenders and another dessert. If you're paying for it, stick to your guns. If you don't want it, then don't have it. I think most kids will eat before they come because they might not be able to wait until the reception.

We're having a taco bar too! The only kids invited are the flower girl, ring bearer and their siblings. I'm not providing any other food for them. Tacos and cupcakes!

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We were originally going to do pasta but everyone who knows was super confused and asked why we weren't doing tacos...so we changed it. Everyone we are inviting is aware that we will be doing tacos and cheesecake lol

View Quoted Comment I think this sounds like a good plan ! I know a lot of kids that love tacos and then some that don’t eat anything besides chicken fingers, fries or pasta. I’d probably reach out and say “hi! We are serving a taco bar at the wedding ! Will your kids eat this or would they prefer a kids meal of chicken fingers [or whatever your specific alternative would be]?”


My other funny story is my aunt is a vegetarian as is her husband, but her adult sons gave meat a try as they grew up and I knew one definitely eats it regularly and I wasn’t sure about the other— none of the family filled in my request for dietary restrictions on the rsvp, so I reached out to her to ask about the boys . Her exact response “oh don’t worry about him, he doesn’t eat anything anyway” 🤣🤣— about her 21 year old, lol. So instead of ordering him a special vegetarian meal, I just counted him for the regular buffet with everyone else. Turned out he was thrilled with his plate of mashed potatoes that he had for dinner, hahaha

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Thats pretty good lol. We will also be having tortilla chips displayed so people can have the option to make nachos as well if they want so I may wait until we start getting RSVPs back

I would assume the kids would eat at the wedding. However, if you’re doing tacos can’t the kids have that? It’s not like you’re doing a plated meal and choosing something else for the kids. If the kids can’t eat tacos, then they can eat before the wedding but i don’t think it’s your responsibility at all to get different food for picky eaters, kids or adults haha

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I know some kids are picky. One of my best friends who is in the bridal party is not bringing her son because she will be with me all day beforehand but I know he is so picky and will only eat chicken tenders (from certain places) and pitch a fit if you try to offer him something else....he is going on 8. Thats kind of the attitude that other people have had...that if they can't eat a beef or chicken taco...or even nachos...then people can leave or eat beforehand

I would just stick to the tacos