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Just Said Yes July 2024

Received wedding photo … there is a photoshoot of an other couple !

Jane, on August 2, 2024 at 9:40 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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Hello guys !

We had a wonderful wedding, sunny day, everything went smoothly

I just received my wedding pic from one of our 3 photographs ( who was also a friend and attended the wedding as a guest / photograph )Pictures are very nice until the part where I see a photoshoot of an other couple ( invited to our wedding and the woman was my bridesmaid ) on the wine yard. I am not talking about 2 pictures, I am talking about 20-30 pictures of them, looking at each other and posing. I am very confused why these people thought our wedding would be the perfect place for them to take pictures ( I know they also have an engagement and a baby on the way ). And I am a little bit upset cause I don’t have picture with my sister for example.I am waiting for the other pictures from other photographs and I don’t know if I should adress it to the couple and the photograph or just let it go … what are your thoughts ?!

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Latest activity by Jacks, on August 6, 2024 at 8:22 PM

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Michael · on August 2, 2024 at 10:15 AM
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It seems that their photoshoot, as involving friends of yours, made sense to them and kind of extends the celebration. If this was done without interrupting the services you paid for, it would seem reasonable to be happy for their engagement and their photos.
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Jane · on August 2, 2024 at 10:28 AM
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They are not engaged yet and didn’t announce the pregnancy either that’s why I was confused …
Also my photographers attended the wedding and offered to do pictures for free as a gift for us. They were supposed to take turns during the day so each of them could enjoy the day.
I guess I was very surprised that they decided to do their own photoshoot without asking if it was ok for us.I think at the end I am upset because I have more pictures of this couple than pictures of my family and I would imagine that if they wanted to celebrate their love they could have booked another time and another place for that with the photograph
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Michael · on August 2, 2024 at 10:44 AM
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I could see it as bothersome if you don't ultimately get the pictures you expected. And it would have been nicer to ask, but I can see them liking not to have to find a place to do the photos. You might just tell the couple you are glad they got to do a photoshoot there but now they owe you one -- if you can be lighthearted when saying that.
It is hard to know the best advice until you see what pics you got for your wedding. Anyhow, others here will probably give you better advice later on.
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Rae · on August 2, 2024 at 11:56 AM
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Was the friend not doing the same for them as they did for you, taking free photos? It may be different if it were someone you hired but this was a guest of the wedding. Get over it.
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LM · on August 2, 2024 at 12:14 PM
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First, it's very common for guests to take formal and family photos at other people's weddings when they're all dressed up and looking beautiful at a decorated venue. So this couple did nothing wrong. Second, it is very common to regret missed photos with loved ones after your own wedding. There's simply not enough time as the Host, and you just have to eventually let it go. Third, you didn't hire a photographer, you got 3 for free. If you hired someone, a shot list would have been created and a contract signed to ensure dedication to your event only. As Rae added, they may have been doing other's a favor, too. Be joyous with your day and spread the happiness.
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Jane · on August 2, 2024 at 1:01 PM
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Thanks everybody for your opinion !
I guess I was unhappy because we scheduled a specific time to take our official wedding pictures and we got 20 pictures out of that.
And seeing that this couple came and got 15 official pictures ( and many others candid one ) makes me feel like the focus were on them. Other people contacted me asking me why they were on soo much pics compared to other people there so I think it added to my confusion. Next time I would ask a professional photograph for sure !
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Jacks · on August 2, 2024 at 9:21 PM
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You don't own someone's time if you're not paying them. That goes for all "friendors", friends who work at your wedding for free.
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Andrea · on August 2, 2024 at 11:20 PM
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This is one reason we made sure to hire professionals rather than get friends to help out. You can have expectations of professionals that you can’t of friends. Just delete the photos of the other couple and move on. There are always going to be shots you wish you’d gotten. (I managed to miss a shot with us, my parents, brother, and SIL, and I’m kicking myself for it!)
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Jane · on August 2, 2024 at 11:50 PM
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My friend is not a professional photograph, he wanted to start his business and build a portfolio that’s why he agreed to do it for free and as a gift . And in exchange we agreed to let him use the wedding has an example for his website. He was happy because he used to paid to have some models to pose for him, and our agreement was free for both of us.
I think, this is maybe where there was a misunderstanding. I expected him to be professional because for me it was the beginning of working together and referring him and his business. And as you all said, because he was not beeing paid, he could do what he wanted to during this time. So it is really a learned lesson for me. It is better to pay a professional.
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