Real thoughts on Honeymoon registries

I don't see how it's any more tacky than having a regular wedding registry. you're not asking for money your asking them to purchase an activity. why is it ok to purchase a crockpot but not an activity?

i've never been to a wedding where a couple has registered for honeymoon activities but if that's what they wanted then that's what i would get. there are too many rules to this stuff. no matter what you do or don't do SOMEBODY will be offended or think you're tacky so do what you want.

I am doing one, and I don't think they are tacky. I do realize that some guest will find them tacky, so I also did a small bed bath and beyond registry to give my guests an option. I think it really depends on your friends and family. In some circles they can be completely acceptable and in others they will be frowned upon.

We're doing one and also did a few small registries for those who prefer buying gifts and/or for the shower. Everyone know FH and I love to travel so I think everyone will find the honeyfund registry understandable, esp since he's been too sick for us to go anywhere the past 2.5 yrs...

I saw this thread when it was started a few days ago and I found some of the earlier comments annoying--I'd rather have a memorable experience with FH than some materialistic "thing." I registered for an olive oil spritzer and belt/scarf organizer at BBB. Those items will never mean as much to me as something he and I experience during our honeymoon. Maybe I see it differently though since he's been so sick (cancer) the past few years. Honestly we don't know what the future will hold for us and how long we'll have...

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Also it feels like a lot of people express their opinions without fully knowing what they are talking about. The fees or charges associated with most of the honeymoon registries are due to giving your guests the option to use their credit card. Every time you use your credit card, the merchant pays a fee to receive the money. This is no different. Otherwise your guest can opt to choose an item from the registry, print a little certificate and then write a check to give the bride and groom. No fee involved. The credit card is just a matter of convenience and you don't have to give people that option.

If people opt to contribute to our honeymoon fund, our plan is to take photos (maybe with a thank you sign) of ourselves doing the things for which people have contributed. I haven't worked out the details yet but we'll either include the photo in a thank you card (if we've not sent one yet) or perhaps email it to the people afterwards.

TACKY!!

Not exactly tacky, but I won't use it. Just seems like a gentler way to ask for money. Friends of ours have one set up for their wedding, but I will just be writing a check.

I don't think they are tacky, either. My family is big on giving restaurant gift cards and theater tickets as birthday and holiday presents, so I already know that they (as well as many other people) like the option of giving an "experience" rather than a "thing". In this insane world of wedding gifting (gifts for the engagement! gifts for the shower! gifts for the wedding! favors for the guests!), I actually find honeymoon registries a refreshing reprieve from the typical registry that feeds American consumerism and materialism.

I'm a non-traditional type. People think my FH and I are well off because we travel alot but what they don't understand is that I'm FRUGAL I use points, cook at home and do all kinds of scrimping to travel. A HM Registry would enable me to relax and splurge for one special trip that I wouldn't ordinarily take. I definitely value that over a battery operated salt and pepper shaker. IMHO memories are made by DOING things, not by HAVING things. I do plan on having a travel registry in one form or another.

On Honeyfund.com, there is no fees involved if people choose to contribute by check or cash. If the couple chooses to make credit card payments an option, it's 2.8% + $0.30. It's our choice if we want to give people this option though.

Most merchants pay approx. 3% for each transaction, so it's about the same.

I agree with glenda... we dud a registry at target, bed bath and beyond, and put contributions to the honeymoon. I also put on our website, we aren't materialistic and we were only together for 10 months before we got pregnant in 2011the and we've never gone on vacation with each other and would like to have a honeymoon. I signed us up on honeyfund where they can pay by credit card they can choose check or cash.

I don't know why everyone is so judgmental and rude about this. Almost everyone does a registry: it's not rude! It has grown to be a custom. When you go to a birthday party, do you show up empty handed? No. So don't show up to a wedding empty handed! I've had several friends do this and I don't mind! I'd rather help for a fancy vacation than buy them expensive china they'd never use! And I don't think it's tacky or looks like you're begging! My cousin did it, and ended up having almost $1000 leftover! She redid her bathroom with the money. Do I cars? No! I love her and I wanted to give her a gift,so I did! At least I know it was used for a purpose!

Your friends and family know what happens at a wedding, gifts are just part of it. Don't let people tell you it's rude or tacky. It's the same thing as a bridal registry!

I am also thinking about having a traditional registry for the very few things my fiancé and I need (we have been living together for years now), as well as a honeymoon registry. The things that matter to my fiancé and I are not things that will break or go out of fashion or eventually be replaced with something new - what we think really matters in life are experiences, creating memories together. That is what happens on a honeymoon- creating memories with your new husband/wife. I have read a lot of mean posts on various sites about how they are tacky, but I have read reputable news articles stating the are not. At the end of the day, I think you know the people who are coming to your wedding - if you don't think it is tacky then the people you associate with probably aren't snobs who will find it tacky.