Real thoughts on Honeymoon registries

My FH and I both have lots of things and we don't want anymore stuff that will probably sit in boxes and not get used. We registered for a cash registry. I think its the best thing for everyone. We can use the cash to upgrade what we have or for our honeymoon, etc. Our friends and family love it because they know that we are getting what WE want.

I'm not a fan. People can register wherever they want and guests can either buy something or not. I would not contribute to a honeymoon registry. It's one (in some cases, highly over-rated) vacation.

I don't think they are tacky but I'm not a fan of them. Honestly I don't think my guests should have to help pay for my HM.

I just give cash. Paying any form of a fee for the registry(whoever is paying it), does not make any sense to me.

That is kid of how I'm feeling about it. I guess I just needed to hear it from others! After thinking about it more and seeing what you all have to say, I can see where it would be a little strange. Thanks for the input!

We are using one. I went back and forth on this for a very long time and realized just like other things come and go out of style so do peoples thought and opions of wedding traditions and everything else that goes along with them. For example, this is my second wedding and I am wearing a white dress. Years ago it would have been frowned upon this day and age most people could really care less what color your dress is. I felt as if the only people that would have a problem with a honeymoon registry would be the older guests, so before making the decision I spoke to my grandparents and several other elders and they all said the same thing, they would rather pay for that then buy me a gift that I dont need that I would end up taking back and getting cash for to spend on my honeymoon anyways. We did also leave it up to the guest to do cash instead if they wanted. I have found that when people are buying a wedding gift they want to contribute their money to what makes the couple happy

My FMIL wanted me to set one up, but I said no, because I find it tacky. Instead I told her for the bridal shower just to tell people that we could use money towards our honeymoon more than more things for our kitchen.

We're doing a registry through Disney- I don't think it's tacky, but we also registered with more traditional registries too so that no one can complain

I don't necessarily have an issue with the idea of a HM registry - I would be happy to help contribute to an adventure or massage or something on HM. What I do have an issue with is the fee most HM registries charge, so in that case I'd rather just give cash.

I think it's best to steer clear of honeymoon registries because some guests WILL find them tacky--and they are. Anytime that you request money, you're kind of being rude. It's different if someone asks where you're registered and you say, "Oh, we already have everything we need for our home so we aren't registering at any department stores. Right now we're just saving for our honeymoon." A registry says "Give us money" whereas saying that you're saving for a honeymoon lets them draw their own conclusions.

I think, people like to bring gifts to showers which is the whole point of a registry, (in my neck of the woods people typically give money at weddings, we got about 50 gifts for our shower, including about 6 gift cards to the travel portion of our registry. We registered at Sears and they do gifts and have a travel section)

For the wedding we got about 6 gifts and probably about 5 gift cards and the rest was money.

I personally also bring a gift to a shower and money to a wedding. If you don't need anything don't have a shower. I do'nt have a problem with honeymoon registeries but as someone who recently got married, our wedding cash gifts were spent on my husbands education, paying our cash bar and saving for stuff we need for a baby coming. I'd rather use the money people give me for that than dinner on the beach/ breakfast in bed, an excursion etc.

Wow i am so surprised to hear people say it is tacky! i see nothing tacky about it at all. let's face it- most couples now a days live together before marriage (including myself). i have lived on my own for over 10 years at this point and have collected almost all of my household needs. our registry has some new sheets and pans basically. we don't need anything else in life at this point or have room for any more household items. i think writing just a check is borrrring. at least if you do a honeyfund it is a fun thing to do. i would much rather give them $150 for a couples massage. i know very well they wont really be using that money for a massage but it is still way more fun than writing a check and being like oh here is the money to cover our meals we ate at your wedding.

I, personally, would not contribute to a honeymoon registry. I want to get a couple something they can use for years to come - not contribute money for them to go zip-lining.

I think its great personally!! I have one -- but I also have registered at stores. Like a lot of the feedback is coming in some people don't want to contribute. If you contribute to mine you call my travel agent and tell her how much and she just directly puts it towards it. My sister did this for my birthday! I mean seriously, I think its awesome...helping to pay for it is great by me! I have all of the house stuff, we live together etc etc but I would say if you are going to do a honeymoon registry that's great, but also register at a store so if people find it "tacky" they have other options.

I have a honeymoon registry. We're going to sandals so they include this. We registered for excursions and extras as well as trip contribution. Someone already got us something too! SO EXCITED!

These are YOUR friends and family - they want to give you a gift that you want! So do what's best for you. I would also read reviews here on wedding wire from actual couples who have used a honeymoon registry - this is better than an opinion from someone who has never used one - just my opinion :-) BTW, we used honeymoonpixie.com and were very very happy. Got 100% of our money, etc. and our guests all loved it (seriously!).

I don't see the point of hm registries. If people want to give you cash, they will. If they don't, they won't. I've had friends do cash and hm registries and while I do think asking for cash is rude, I do t really care since I always give cash at weddings anyway. But I never use those registries. I just put my money and card into the card box. The registry just seems like an unnecessary hassle.

I don't think it's tacky. However, I'm starting to think it might be unnecessary for me. In my family they usually always give gifts at the shower and money at the wedding. I doubt they would go out of their way to put money in the online honeymoon fund. We'll probably just have to add up the money and use it for our honeymoon.

Thank you all for your input!

I had friends that did this and I didn't think it was tacky at all....I think it is different depending on where the couple is at in their life/situation...

For instance:

Possibly tacky way to me: The couple are decently well off and could obviously afford their own wedding and honeymoon and "register" for a honeymoon.

Not Tacky: Couple who could afford the basics like plane ticket but not the extras like activities, extra nice romantic dinner, massage, etc. and registering for that....

I think it's just kind of different situations, and there are others situations I didn't post... but the point is that I think it depends on the couple, what's right for them, and the situation.